My terrifying Femdom Addiction

Shit... After 40 days I really almost forgot all this shit and I was amazed by all those things I have seen for 5 years every day. I guess I am really healing. So this post will be the last time when I will try to help someone addicted to femdom.

First of all, pal, I am really sorry for you. These things can make you lead to really dark places and it is no matter if this fetishes is induced by porn or you had this from childhood (perhaps I would still say that both ways are related to family's stuff)

Answering to your question, it is definitely not right biologically. I shall be idealistic, but even I know that no woman will like a submissive man completely. Absolute fantasy gives birth to absolute degeneration. Speaking what I have read, no one dude who wrote his really objective IRL experience on the internet wasn't proud of these things.

And yes, this dreams is trust me really normal! Keep going! I had twice 30 day-streak and always had this dreams - but they will pass! You see, your brains really love dopamine and it just strives for that chemical. You just need to endure.

As I see, there are two schools of thought about how to deal with femdom.
One will offer you supplements like 5-htp or increase serotonin in another way (like swearing) and it helps to someone. But to people like me, who are a little bit asexual and had these fetishes from childhood(not so radical of course) it is needed to understand our emotions and from where they evolved. In this case you don't need to think about urges like demons, but admit that you have an attraction to these fetishes and let it go and of course try as longer to abstain. So, try mindfulness. Sometimes it is the best to do nothing (yes, NOTHING, not wasting time, but NOTHING or in other words introspecting yourself) You won't get so good achievements if you are using internet a lot, I may offer you to abstain from all social media and YT, you can sublimate this social need by visiting nofap (in my case it really helped you will experience so much positivity there!). It can help meditation or even good therapists (in my case psychologist didn't help) and of course nofap, because nofap is about life-changing.

Ejaculating in sleep is a wet dream. It doesn't count as relapse. It is quite a good thing actually!

And I want to offer you one psychological exercise. Try to imagine sweet, beautiful, angel woman with who this femdom thing wouldn't impossible in your mind. Somehow it was the first step to achieve what I achieved.

Good luck mate! You have an amazing streak, keep going!!!

 

So, here's the thing about reboots. I'm a big believer in sexaholics anonymous (who are, when quarantine's over, people you've gotta call).

Something I've learned from them: my reboot's never "over." What we seek is progress, not perfection - by which is meant, I seek to be better every day. I do not seek to become perfect by my own efforts. I seek to be better than yesterday. Lasting sobriety comes that way.

I don't know if that helps, but it helps me. The upshot is you are doing better than yesterday.

Also, wet dreams means you're healing. I went years without a wet dream. I've had three in the last couple months. It is a natural thing, and with time your mind will heal, and the dreams will become healthier than they are.

Also, if you can afford it, I'd look for a therapist. Also get covenant eyes (they have a hardship program if you can't afford it).

 

Hey!
I think you're going throught alot, maybe even a little bit over thinking about it and that's completely okay, as someone told above me, just let it be and it'll go(for me personally it worked couple of times), I'm sure that you're strong enough to move from this point to a better place, where you could fullfill who you really want to be! Think about these all eleven days, you're doing an amazing job already, then be proud of yourself! I believe you could do even more!