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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Baden, Nov 19, 2016.

  1. Baden

    Baden Fapstronaut

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    I'm new to the forum. I'm in a bit of doubt if this is the right place as I'm not addicted to porn but more to live camgirls. I'll browse around and see if this is the right place ot porn only.
     
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  2. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Welcome to NoFap! You are in the right place. Whether it is porn or camming, it's essentially the same thing, a substitution for a real relationship.

    What strategies are you currently using to combat the enemy called called PMO?
     
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    Baden Fapstronaut

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    Hey D.J.
    Thanks for the welcome.
    I have no clue at this point, only that it needs to stop. I have started therapy but I really don't need a pro to tell me something is wrong. I'm very much aware of that :)
    So what's next? I'm not totally sure at this point.
     
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  4. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Here is a growing collection of startup strategies compiled from myself and I've added some from others on NoFap. Keep these in mind. This is by no means a be-all-end-all list of suggestions but it is a list for you to use and add to for yourself and modify to meet your needs.
    1. Delete all of the P that you have from your computer and smartphone including the browser history and cookies. This will not stop you but will slow you down.
    2. Identify your triggers. What are the things that you happening in your world to cause you to turn to PMO for escape and comfort! This is the most crucial step in the process.
    3. Once your triggers are identified, determine healthy ways of dealing with those triggers such as exercise, running, leaving the stressful situation and going outside for air.
    4. Follow this link to find out what NoFap is about. Within this link is a link to a glossary of terms commonly used on NoFap. This will help you communicate knowledgeably and more effectively. https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/newbies-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/
    5. Go to http://yourbrainonporn.com/ to learn more about the effect PMO has on you. Do this also to educate yourself on the damage you are doing to yourself.
    6. Guard your eyes. Be careful of what you allow yourself to see. No, you cannot live with your eyes closed but you can determine how long you look at something. If you know it may cause you to fall, flee from it! Run in the other direction, sometimes that need to be literal.
    7. Masturbation... do not keep your hands to yourself. Unless you are bathing, changing your underwear or actually using the bathroom, your hands should be nowhere near your penis. YOU ARE BANNED FROM TOUCHING YOUR PENIS FOR RECREATION!!!
    8. Your bed is limited to only the time you are sleeping. No laying in bed other than that. As soon you awake, you should get out of bed. Can't sleep, if awake for more than a few minutes, get out of bed until you are sleepy enough to go to sleep.
    9. Keep doors open unless necessary. You need to be isolated as little as possible. You're less likely to M when people can see you.
    10. Keep curtains and blinds open as much as possible. Similar reason as above and also allows light inside. Many time M'ing is more likely in dark places.
    11. At night, keep lights on as often as possible. Similar to above, lights on may lessen your desire to fap.
    12. If you are a naked sleeper or a boxer sleeper, consider sleeping in a in jockstrap, cup or briefs or compression shorts, something more constrictive so that you are less likely to feel movement while falling asleep or when awaking. They may provide a better barrier to prevent those that subconsciously reach for their penis at night or in the morning. They may also be a visual barrier for those that have morning erections too irresistible to not touch.
    13. Begin a journal so that others can encourage you and connect with you.
    14. Become active in this community. The more active you are, the less time you will spend focused on you. The less time focused solely on you, the faster time goes. There is an old saying, "a watched pot of water doesn't boil any faster", which means for this example, focusing solely on yourself and your issues won't make them go away sooner. It's OK to track progress but when spending more time doing other things that were once important to you and encouraging others, you will notice the time of your sobriety will go so much faster than if you didn't.
    This a journey. Unless you began your addiction yesterday, don't expect to have complete victory by tomorrow. It takes time. We are here for you for as long as it takes.
     
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    Baden Fapstronaut

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    Holy crap that is a long list. I could add to this list regarding camgirls. I was thinking about beginning a journal because this is very debilitating as I'm sure everyone knows.

    I think it's important to separate abstinence and truly change. If I don't get to the root cause of this or at least know why, how can I change it? It's like something is missing like a deep connection that I then bought online.....

    More reading and thinking is needed. Again thanks for posting this list.
     
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  6. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    As I mentioned, this is a growing list. If there are suggestions specifically to camming, let me know and I'all add it. Every thing on the list won't work for everyone but it is a baseline to begin and modify per each person and each person's situation. I hope this helps!
     

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