New to NOFAP

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by phoenix_lk, Apr 13, 2019.

  1. phoenix_lk

    phoenix_lk Fapstronaut

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    Hi All,

    I'm 25 and new to this forum. I started nofap 28th October 2018 and there were whole bunch of reasons behind why I started. Let me tell you my story.

    I discovered masturbation when I was in grade 7 in school (2005). I was super excited with this new found activity but as I remember I never masturbated regularly back then. Then I was introduced to porn by one of my colleagues back in 2007. Going forward, I got addicted to porn and masturbation and I enjoyed every bit of it. Taking things into more chaotic level, I used p and m as a stress reliever. There were days I masturbated 3 to 5 times in a row for the sake of releasing stress and for pleasure. As I remember, heavy usage of p and m started around in 2010 as I got so many free time back then. Jumping into 2013, I noticed my hair was shredding so I masturbated even more to kill stress thinking that stress could be the reason my hair was shredding. Somewhere in 2014, I woke up to no morning wood. Stress got doubled with this so was p and m. Somehow I came across this NoFap forum somewhere around 2016. Since then I tried rebooting without any success so I gave up rebooting. I believe I gave up because I had zero motivation and I couldn't stop thinking about porn. Throughout these years, I never had a relationship with a girl even though I wanted a girlfriend so bad. I was afraid of being alone but I was nervous around girls I couldn't even maintain an eye contact for few seconds with them. Anyhow, I managed to get a girlfriend who I thought would be my world. We never had sex but we have kissed and enjoyed each other. I stopped p and m because thoughts of responsibilities kicks into my mind, I wanted to be healthy as possible for her, for our future mentally and physically. I abstained from p and m for like 1 month during our relationship. Last year my girlfriend broke up with me putting an end to a 6 months relationship (perks of being born in a country full of idiots who rely on horoscopes). I was devastated, I started p and m again. Time passed with p and m making my body and mind weaker day by day. For some strange reason, I determined to stop this madness forever so I started rebooting again for good. Basically, I have damaged my self over 10 years without knowing I was addicted to pmo.

    Few weeks ago I started working out and Yoga to make the best version of myself. I want my hair back. I want my morning wood back. I want strong erections. Basically I want everything I lost for pmo. At the time I write this, I'm on 167 days of nofap. During these 5 months I had exactly 3 wet dreams and 0 relapses. I suspect the last wet dream might be because I had couple of beers that night few hours before bed. I feel better but I cannot specifically name the advantages of nofap I feel. I hope you all will help me get what I lost to pmo.
     
  2. Trying_to_Quit1

    Trying_to_Quit1 Fapstronaut

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    Congratulations on such a long time of success. I know sometimes the why that we are doing this is the big question. You might go back to when you first started in this program to begin with, why were you trying to do it then? Was it just because of hair loss, or a girlfriend? Or were there other reasons? Have you gotten some time back? Have you been able to engage in any kind of extra hobbies or additional activities that you enjoy? Is it possible you could get ahead at work or school depending on your situation? A lot of people complain that porn takes away a lot of their time. When we get that time back, we have to do something with it. That is a definite advantage to not acting out. Perhaps something to think about is what you could do with that extra time that you might find constructive. What could you do that would make your life so much better? You mentioned Yoga I think. Could you do more working out? Build a very strong body? Learn a foreign language? Start a business? Move up at work or school? Take out a new hobby like painting or surfing or something else? There are lots of things to do, if you are but willing to try them. Getting rid of porn is only part of the solution. We actually have to take our lives back. I congratulate you on taking the first step in that two-step process. Now I invite you to do something wonderful for yourself. What awesome things can you do with your time?

    Congratulations again, and welcome to the forum.
     
  3. phoenix_lk

    phoenix_lk Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the warm welcome mate. I think what I have started (working out, Yoga) is enough for now. I read lot of posts here and gained some knowledge when I started my nofap journey. All is well.
     

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