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Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Uuuuuuuuuuuu, May 6, 2020.

  1. Uuuuuuuuuuuu

    Uuuuuuuuuuuu New Fapstronaut

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    Hi people,
    I’m new here, I want to do a 90 day challenge because I’ve felt in the grip of porn for the last 19 years. I’m 29 now with a beautiful baby son and a beautiful wife but porn and masturbation make her less of a priority in my life. I feel so much shame because I know I can’t control this and porn doesn’t fit with me or my values. At the same time, it presents to me as being so sweet, so delicious, nothing in the world better than watching porn. Tonight is finishing my first week of abstinence, PM, also no O. There’s a part of me that says, nope, not possible to go another minute without watching porn and masturbating, another part that knows that I’m a dead man if I keep this up, I’m killing myself with this. I know I have tremendous potential and my life is worth so much, but I also feel like I’m 35-40% of the person I can be because of my porn addiction. I hate this thing and I love it so much. How messed up is this?? I’m looking for help, is it possible to be free of this? Can I do 90 days, can I go one more day without porn??
    First thing to do is probably to go to sleep, staying up late after my wife is sleep is a trrrigger.
    thanks
    Uuuuuuuuuuuu
     
  2. palindromo

    palindromo Fapstronaut

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    Welcome
    Please, start studying carefully what's happening in your mind > https://oceanrecoverycentre.com/2016/07/the-ultimate-guide-to-overcoming-internet-porn-addiction/

    First time without porn will be stressful , but if you resist , in some months you will feel reborn.
    So if you have any temptation , is okay to masturbate if you can't handle the stress , but don't porn anymore.
    No more instagram pictures of models. No more erotic imagines , erotic stories or asmr.
    If you experience ''flatline'' and low libido , resist.
    >https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/por...l-size-and-or-libido-are-decreasing-flatline/

    The brain will try to win you and to get some triggers for the seek of dopamine. Resist

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    You can go even further than 90 days , porn is not necessary to masturbate. We have trained our brain to think masturbation is porn.
    To think about girls and sex as porn.

    Here there's some material for your couple
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/...pecial-nerves-in-the-skin-can-help-you-in-bed

    https://www.healthline.com/health/karezza

    Maybe try to read something beside her until you get sleepy , buy a good book
     
  3. Uuuuuuuuuuuu

    Uuuuuuuuuuuu New Fapstronaut

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  4. | Nico |

    | Nico | Distinguished Fapstronaut
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    Welcome to the community :) any questions or concerns please dont hesitate to ask. Best of luck on your journey
     
  5. Hey, welcome to the NoFap community
    : )

    It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!
    First let me go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:
    Getting Started Guide / Forum Rules / How to Use the NoFap forums/ Glossary/ NoFap Panic button/
    Set up your day counter /
    Rebooting Resources/
    Accountability groups (new!)/
    About NoFap/ Support NoFap

    Here is just some advice:
    First and foremost please take a careful look at each section in the forum, there may be something(s) you will find to be of big help to you.

    Secondly I advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then begin posting frequent status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement.
    The forum has got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see.
    People will find your profile and give you support.

    There’s a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive conversations. It would be great to have you join in and become part of the team!
    We support others in the threads, profile posts, and journals/reboot logs.
    Once you receive some support, please be sure and be grateful to the member for the help/support you received and consider giving some in return to anyone you wish.

    Thirdly, you should highly consider creating a public journal/reboot log (in the appropriate sectionfor you) to write about your days in depth for us members to follow along on your journey and offer support to you on.

    Please start your journal in the correct section and with that, also try your best to post in the correct sections as it is mandatory and would be helpful to the mods who organize the forum. : )

    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     
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