Newbie need help and guidance

addictedToHand

New Fapstronaut
Hello guys,

decided to take a journey to explore my options. I've been having what seems to be Erectile dysfunction issues, but the more I dig deep and after going to the doctor to get erection pills, the problem still happening. I have come down to the painful realization that my masturbating habits have really impacted my sex life.

When I'm alone, I find myself wanting to look up pictures of beautiful women, paying to follow them on social media, buying them things while masturbating to the thought of them knowing I exist. I don't even picture having sex with these women because my masturbation habits would rather have them playing with my balls or playing with my nipples while I stroke my cock with my own hand. Due to masturbation, I find that the vagina doesn't turn me on unlike it does most men.

I'm 30 years old, soon to be 31, and I have always masturbated with 1 hand playing with my nipples and the other stroking my shaft, while putting vibrating materials around my balls to heighten the orgasm. And now, during sex if I don't feel those things I could get hard but I can't maintain an erection and I definitely can't achieve an orgasm. I had a girl over last night and we kept trying for about 1.5 hours just for me to maintain a good erection but it didn't work. When she left, I found the urge to masturbate because I knew I could do it myself and get off. I decided to hold off on that. Most times I also go dry masturbation, although I've been switching it up lately, but the feel of wetness during masturbation, let alone sex, makes it feel weird and not as good for me.

As I mentioned earlier as well, I find myself following numerous women social media, keeping a folder with all their sexy pictures or video and returning to masturbate to it. However, I also never find the urge to masturbate twice to the same woman in a row, its like my brain is so used to looking at different things and this has definitely not helped my relationships as I get bored easily.

I'm embarrassed and tired of this issue. I want to enjoy sex, I don't want to be a slave to my masturbation habits which sometimes also include getting high and wacking it for the intense orgasm effects. I'm just looking for where to start and how to. I haven't masturbated in 4 days because I knew I might have sex last night but that still did not change the outcome. I've tried disabling all social media accounts to only reopen them 1 or 2 weeks later. I need help with this please.
 
Welcome to NoFap. I've found this a great place to get the support I need to stay free of pornography use, I hope you do too. If you are interested in the science stuff behind the addiction then there's a good introduction here and some more detailed information over at https://yourbrainonporn.com/

The process of 'rebooting' is covered on this page: https://www.nofap.com/rebooting/

Lots of us find it useful to keep a journal and there are age and gender related sections in the forums here where you can start a journal thread. I've got load of support and advice from reading other people's journals.

There are loads of great threads and posts to get started on, here's one: Top Tips for leaving PMO behind. As you read other addict's posts, and those from the partners of addicts, you'll find people whose advice resonates with your journey.


Good luck - and welcome to your new pornography free life!
 
I need help with this please.
Hey @addictedToHand ,

I'm just a normal ordinary member. No moderator super powers and no special insite. I share my ESH (Experience, Strength and Hope) of what works for me.

Just another warm welcome and a heart felt hello. This community has helped me so much.

What worked for me was "working" it. It took hard work for me to complete a hard reboot (No pmo) for 120 days, then move into a Sex Positive mode.

First, reading the literature published by NoFap itself along with reading journals.

Then, doing the work. Writing in my journal and replying to introductions and other's journals.

Finally, but not least, getting involved with the fellowship. I found it on the forums, but also in people's profiles. The forums tend to be longer posts, where the profiles tend to be more "conversational".

That is what has worked for me. I like to remind myself that this community was here waiting for me with the lights on when I arrived. Now, I have to do my best to be there when someone comes to the community.

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PS: Why not say hello to some members? The fellowship is so important to me, I hope you might find it important as well.

@BreatheDeeply Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139097/
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@LiquidShoes Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/134044/
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@Reverent Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/
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@Former_CD Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/87827/
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@PatrickR Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139570/
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There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.
 
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