Newbie need help and guidance

Hello guys,

decided to take a journey to explore my options. I've been having what seems to be Erectile dysfunction issues, but the more I dig deep and after going to the doctor to get erection pills, the problem still happening. I have come down to the painful realization that my masturbating habits have really impacted my sex life.

When I'm alone, I find myself wanting to look up pictures of beautiful women, paying to follow them on social media, buying them things while masturbating to the thought of them knowing I exist. I don't even picture having sex with these women because my masturbation habits would rather have them playing with my balls or playing with my nipples while I stroke my cock with my own hand. Due to masturbation, I find that the vagina doesn't turn me on unlike it does most men.

I'm 30 years old, soon to be 31, and I have always masturbated with 1 hand playing with my nipples and the other stroking my shaft, while putting vibrating materials around my balls to heighten the orgasm. And now, during sex if I don't feel those things I could get hard but I can't maintain an erection and I definitely can't achieve an orgasm. I had a girl over last night and we kept trying for about 1.5 hours just for me to maintain a good erection but it didn't work. When she left, I found the urge to masturbate because I knew I could do it myself and get off. I decided to hold off on that. Most times I also go dry masturbation, although I've been switching it up lately, but the feel of wetness during masturbation, let alone sex, makes it feel weird and not as good for me.

As I mentioned earlier as well, I find myself following numerous women social media, keeping a folder with all their sexy pictures or video and returning to masturbate to it. However, I also never find the urge to masturbate twice to the same woman in a row, its like my brain is so used to looking at different things and this has definitely not helped my relationships as I get bored easily.

I'm embarrassed and tired of this issue. I want to enjoy sex, I don't want to be a slave to my masturbation habits which sometimes also include getting high and wacking it for the intense orgasm effects. I'm just looking for where to start and how to. I haven't masturbated in 4 days because I knew I might have sex last night but that still did not change the outcome. I've tried disabling all social media accounts to only reopen them 1 or 2 weeks later. I need help with this please.