NoFap First try, need some advices :) (Maybe not safe if easy on trigger)

Hi Elbob,

Thanks for the informative post. Hope I can help..

NoFap is all about the emotions as well. If we cannot control ourselves from masturbating or watching porn, then it also means that we have some emotional issues in some areas as well. Both are linked. It's all to do with our character and I don't think this is something many of us want to admit.

We are able to control our own emotions if we chose to. We can own them.

You said that sometimes you feel depressed and have no motivation to get things done. Look at the emotions behind that. As humans, we ARE emotional beings, and we tend to forget this. Therefore, everything we do, we do for a reason and we have to look at that, and most of the time even analyse it.

Try to deal with the emotion that is driving to watch porn, even while you have a girlfriend..

There are always underlying issues if we are willing to look hard enough. Sometimes it's loneliness, sometimes we might have anger towards the opposite gender etc... Insecurities or what have you.

For example, one of the driving reasons for me watching porn in the past was due to just wanting an escape, but that is an emotion I had to deal with. How did I deal with it? I had to look at what I was trying to escape from. There were times in my life where I felt empty and needed something to fill a void (I could go deeper and deeper). Some men watch porn because of loneliness. To tackle that, you'd have to own that loneliness and allow the feeling of being alone to pass through you and just feel the pain of that emotion. Until we allow our bodies to actually and literally feel the underlying emotions and causes behind what we do, then we are just going to continue in the same cycle of relapsing and getting back up again.

Most people who go on really long NoFap streaks are allowing themselves to deal with underlying emotions. They just don't realise it. It is the only way to tackle any addiction. There are always underlying issues.

Flatlines are due to your body and mind re programming itself, but don't let your body rebalancing itself stop you from being productive. Same with libido flatlines. It is just your body getting used to the new you that you are trying to develop. It's all normal.

Meditation is nice. I used to that a lot too, but what is actually more important is actually getting to know yourself and finding the real route causes as to why you do what you do. It's the only way to TRULY heal.

 

If you redirect your thoughts whenever they to to a sexual place it will be easier. It takes practice, but you'll get better at it. Avoid sexual thoughts and other triggers when you can. If you can't avoid looking at the pictures and doing the drawing for your art class, try to look at it from a different perspective. don't think of it as a woman, try to think of it as a picture of shapes. That may help.

 

Quite informative post guys. I have a question. I have been trying to quit this addiction for a long time now. I have noted that everytime i fall, it is only because of one of the following 2 reasons.
1) When I have wet dreams. On that particular day, it feels like a bowl of semen is full in my abdomen and just wanted to escape really hard. Not even a single thing is required to create urge. I am excited the whole day. I guess you understand what i mean.
2) Second is when something happens that emotionally affects me. For example, when I got a fight or misunderstanding with a friend, relative, or parent. And suddenly, the thought that I wasted 3 years of my life in this addiction dawns upon me, which causes depression.
And its happens quite quickly, without me understanding it. I figured this problem out a few days ago. Harry Potter inspired me. In the third book of the series, Harry was taught to create a patronas. One had to think of a one's most happiest moments, and say the spell 'Expecto Patronum' which drives away the creatures called Dementors which live on sucking happiness out of others.
The point is, for me, these depressing moments are dementors. I know that this period will end soon and my brain will soon be healthy again. So when I get any urge, I think of the happiest moment that I could remember, live it, and then ask myself, would I like a life full of it. I tell myself that this all will end soon. A few months from now, I won't even have to control myself, and then i would be laughing at myself that how could I have been addicted to it.

But i can't get the solution of the other problem which is having wet dreams. By the way, I am student of 17. Next year I will be in college and I wanna end this in this year only.
Anyone got any ideas?
Thank You