Opinions please !!! Is a fetish/obsession as bad as /go with the PA ?

My husband (PA) is super obsessesed with genital piercings. He had many himself, most of the girls he dated before me had them. A lot of the porn he looked up had to do with women being pierced. I hate it. Have hated it since the beginning but somehow in a desperate attempt to make our sex life better I ended up getting my nipples pierced for him. I hated it the entire time, everything it represented. The one side never healed properly and finally after about 5 years I removed them. So along with him watching the porn, and me not feeling like I am enough for him because of that I also have this evil lirking in my mind.
So I guess my question is , is this considered a fetish? Is there help for those who have such fetishes? Should this be addressed at his next counseling session? To me, its a big deal and I feel like it should . To him, its just always something that has turned him on and not a big deal. To me, its just something else that makes me feel like I will never be enough or what he actually wants and he is just settling.

 

Yes , he started counseling last week. I feel positive about his feeling on what he did wrong as far as the porn goes , but I don’t think he sees a problem with his unnatural obsession with piercings .