Hi, I need some help/support. I've been addicted to fapping (and all associated conditions excessive porn, surfing for hours etc) for the last 20 years. I have tried and tried to give up but after like 3 days my desires/cravings become so intense i keep on relapsing. I keep a journal to monitor my progress but I can't seem to do it. My addiction is so hard wired into my neural pathways and my entire "being" that i feel like i cannot overcome the cravings. Please I pledged today that I will commit to giving the habit up for good but i can't seem to do it on my own. I want to give it up. It fills me with such self loathing afterwards and drains me of my energy and life force. Please anyone/someone give me some support. I really genuinely truthfully want to beat this terrible affliction
Hi jamesc65 send me a pm if you wish - aboit how are you, where are you in your journey, and feelings Where do you think you stucked? I am on day 72-3 dunno… I a female so if it is a trouble no bad feelings
Hi, Hey man, well done for admitting it is an issue as this is the hardest step. My advice at first is to keep busy with positive habits: reduce screentime, exercise lots, meditate, do kind acts, read, journal. I’m on 180 days roughly but when I started 3 years ago it was so difficult to prevent a relapse. I genuinely think the best thing at first is keeping busy and over time the urge to relapse will lessen, cold showers also help if you have a strong urge. Then once you have more control I think looking at your beliefs, feelings etc is key but first of all you should just try to stay busy. Good luck mate you got this and feel free to dm me if you need!
Welcome to the forum. I wrote up this list of tools you may find helpful. You can see my journal for additional details. Learning about this addiction, whether through books or the excellent podcast Porn Free Radio, has been instrumental for me.
Thank you for this. I have managed so far to do a 3 day streak; doesn't sound like much but for me is a big thing. And most importantly i've found an AP on here who is really helping me. I want and will beat this illness