please help me

Jugular

Jugular

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i'm a 19 yo middle eastern guy that have same sex feelings and i have no idea what to do with my life. i feel in bad need for emotional and social support, i got no one to talk to
 
Jugular said:
i'm a 19 yo middle eastern guy that have same sex feelings and i have no idea what to do with my life. i feel in bad need for emotional and social support, i got no one to talk to
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Just remember that, if you are feeling low and think life can't get any worse. You only have 1 choice. You work on yourself. Face your challenges head on. This community is a good place to start. Start hitting the gym(if you don't already), you need to start feeling good about yourself physically before anything
 
Coco99 said:
Just remember that, if you are feeling low and think life can't get any worse. You only have 1 choice. You work on yourself. Face your challenges head on. This community is a good place to start. Start hitting the gym(if you don't already), you need to start feeling good about yourself physically before anything
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thanks coco99 for your precious adivce, i really appreciate it. sadly, i'm in a situation where i can only go the uni for my lectures, go back home and study/cry/overthink/watch porn/cute youtube videos about homosexuals. i have no enough time to do anything else :( that's why i'm on nofap. i feel like i have to talk to someone wih common background. i know that the gym and taking care of myself would definetly help but i'm some on sort of 7 year fight here that ends on 2025 or 2026 :( so i'm not so sure if i can stand still all the upcoming years or not actually :(
 
When you say you have "Same sex feelings", do you believe these stem from an unhealthy porn addiction? Otherwise I'd say its nothing to worry about.
 
Jugular said:
thanks coco99 for your precious adivce, i really appreciate it. sadly, i'm in a situation where i can only go the uni for my lectures, go back home and study/cry/overthink/watch porn/cute youtube videos about homosexuals. i have no enough time to do anything else :( that's why i'm on nofap. i feel like i have to talk to someone wih common background. i know that the gym and taking care of myself would definetly help but i'm some on sort of 7 year fight here that ends on 2025 or 2026 :( so i'm not so sure if i can stand still all the upcoming years or not actually
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Its a situation that you choose. Why can't you change it.It seems like you are stressing over school too much perhaps. Don't fight for something you are uninterested in doing(not telling you to drop out lol). You have 24 hours in a days. Even if you allocate 12 hours for school, you have 4 hours of your time and then 8 hours of sleep. You have to allocate time to get away from school and home.
 
Coco99 said:
Its a situation that you choose. Why can't you change it.It seems like you are stressing over school too much perhaps. Don't fight for something you are uninterested in doing(not telling you to drop out lol). You have 24 hours in a days. Even if you allocate 12 hours for school, you have 4 hours of your time and then 8 hours of sleep. You have to allocate time to get away from school and home.
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i study medicine and it's super hard to allocate time for anything other than medicine :(..... the school is just on fire..... they give us loads to stuff daily to study
 
Candun said:
When you say you have "Same sex feelings", do you believe these stem from an unhealthy porn addiction? Otherwise I'd say its nothing to worry about.
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i'm not sure yet but i never imagined myself with a girl so..... i alwyas think of men. we can't experiment our sexuality in my country before marriage but i dont think im straight ......
 
Candun said:
When you say you have "Same sex feelings", do you believe these stem from an unhealthy porn addiction? Otherwise I'd say its nothing to worry about.
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so basically yea.... i developed same sex attraction when i knew there was straight porn and gay porn. i went with gay. and in my current life i feel some emotions towards other men.
 
You can get some support here on the forum. Nofap will be helpful for sure to clear your mind and to have more time (which you use for porn).
But you have to deal with the other issues in your life as well, finding a balance between uni and private life...
Regarding feelings towards men, if its not developed through porn, you dont have to be worry. If you have same sex feelings, the possibility is that you are a homosexual, you have to find it out and accept that. There is nothing bad in it. I just dont know how is that accepted in your country...
 
Jugular said:
it is deadly in my middle eastern country. i can't tell anyone till death.
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I’m so sorry that you are in such a predicament in your country. That is awful. It is no one else’s business what people do in their bedroom. You said you are studying medicine, is it possible that through your studies you can have a job that will allow you to move to a different country where your sexuality is accepted?
 
kaylee time said:
I’m so sorry that you are in such a predicament in your country. That is awful. It is no one else’s business what people do in their bedroom. You said you are studying medicine, is it possible that through your studies you can have a job that will allow you to move to a different country where your sexuality is accepted?
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i can try my best to escape but it will be so hard to do. the compeition to fight for a place as a physician in a civilized part of the world is really tough on me, but i'm definetly trying it out once i can. in my case, i will graduate as a general practitioner in 2025, after then, i can take a an international medical examination to qualify for a job abroad and that's the toughest part. anyways i'll give it the best i can to really escape this.
i needed this website because i did not think i can stay alive till 2025 or 2026 with those struggles i'm having. i had those days when i completly felt my life literally worth nothing, but i'm really greatful that such a platform exists and that i can reach to such people who could make it through their lives.
currently i'm keen on sharing my life struggles on this group: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?groups/posts/22839/&comment_id=70547#comment-70547
because it really cheered me up just seeing that others really care for me.
 
Jugular said:
i can try my best to escape but it will be so hard to do. the compeition to fight for a place as a physician in a civilized part of the world is really tough on me, but i'm definetly trying it out once i can. in my case, i will graduate as a general practitioner in 2025, after then, i can take a an international medical examination to qualify for a job abroad and that's the toughest part. anyways i'll give it the best i can to really escape this.
i needed this website because i did not think i can stay alive till 2025 or 2026 with those struggles i'm having. i had those days when i completly felt my life literally worth nothing, but i'm really greatful that such a platform exists and that i can reach to such people who could make it through their lives.
currently i'm keen on sharing my life struggles on this group: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?groups/posts/22839/&comment_id=70547#comment-70547
because it really cheered me up just seeing that others really care for me.
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Thanks for sharing your struggles. I have found personally that sharing with others helps lift some of the load. Of course you’re dealing with some pretty long time frames but if you take it a day at a time it is definitely easier to get through it. Lots of people here willing to listen and support you.
 
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