Please help me

Whoa there fella. First of all, if you’re a virgin, you need to talk to her about it. Impossible to fake NOT being a virgin. So better to just put it out there.

Being “rough” means a lot of different things—everything from simply being aggressive to being forceful. I’d ask her to tell you about what kind of rough stuff she likes, specific examples.

 

Hey dude, I'm not a foreseer or a future teller, but this person does not seem like this will work with you, just my opinion though on what you've given me. Her straight-up coming at you with the " yea I like my S very rough and rugged! If they're not good in bed, they're not good in life!" is a big red flag. Your being a virgin will not help this, and you will fail her test the moment you see her in bed. Just keep a distance from her magnet trap, and you need to talk more like an adult to her and not just this " you like sex?',' ya', 'okay cool. What do you like?'" business.

 

Let's run a scenario. I meet a nice lady, and we are on our final date before I propose. Things have gone well, and we've dated for 15 Months consistently. At this point, we've avoided talking about sex as we have chosen to lose our virginity during the marriage. I propose I marry, I honeymoon, and things play out and I realize, quickly that life isn't all about sex. That's the takeaway. Porn says" life is ALL about sex" and reality says " life is about the person, and who they are and what they do, and how they do it. Has nothing to do with whether sex is amazing or not" Besides, if you're looking for a long-lasting marriage, you do realize your sex life vanishes around 40 in reality. The body starts deteriorating at the shocking age of 26, and from there out it's just slow deterioration.

Don't base your life on whether someone is "good in bed" or if their "penis is Big enough or small enough"( which has been shown by studies to not matter) or "is your libido or sex drive enough". This doesn't define who we are men and women! Is it a part of relationships, yes, is it THE part? no.

 

With the woman if you are not sure what she means you should always ask "what do you mean" if she have attraction to you the she will help and explain. Never assume, better ask.
Don't overwhelm yourself, treat every time with her same - Simply just have fun and let her FIRST show sexual affection but take a lead for the action and the go little forward. Stop when she hesitates, but continue few minutes later. Never force things. Hang out as slowly as you can and build up sexual tension, let her wonder until she could not resist of you and Until you end up inside her. It's way more fun and enjoying to always tease her when she are ready for more, but don't hesitate too long. You should play, look at signs and take a lead. Again, just have fun, that's our main goal.

Never try understand woman directly. Their thinking a lot differently then us men. There always emotions connected to their thinking, unlike men most of the time speaks out logicaly. She seeks strength and will throw at you lot of bullshit when senses any weakness. And always look at actions more the to the words.
If she tells that sex is dealbraker it doesn't mean it will be even if it's worst sex experienced Unil you keep your cool and confidences. It could be test to see your reaction or simply teasing you. You can have smallest dick and worst look, but if you are the most confidence then she can't help herself .

 

If you hesitate to get intimate then healthy woman will dump you, because you will show weakness to not stand up for yourself and your needs, as it shows her that if you can't stand up for yourself then you can't stand up for her and protect her. Only needy and insecure woman would stay with weak men. That's recepy for fucked up relationship.
Same with sex before marriage. Who wants to spend rest of their life with person who are bad in bed. If you want to sattle for that shit that's your choice. But why you should do that if you can't get much better relationship.

 

Isn't this the supermodel woman that confessed her love to you and said that you're the one? How quickly things change

 

In my opinion having a relationship is much much bigger than being in bed. It's like you're being objectified. Don't be nervous, be yourself.

 

Don't have the roughest sex you can muster on the first attempt.

This is how you end up sextorted over rape allegations.