Yea, strangely I feel weaker sexual arousal to the real girls at them gym than to the once online. Maybe thats a bad sign, I dont know. Ok, yea I understand. Yea, but getting sick of it and non response from your penis actually helps alot I have come to notice. Yea thats very good. Means you're clean. Yes absolutely, thank you!
What sorts of fetishes are we talking about? Because if they're anything like the ones I am thinking of, then it's all the same. Are we talking Jerk Off Instructions (JOI) where the women aren't nude but are still wearing revealing clothes and command you to beat off, etcetera? I can't think any fetishes that have absolutely zip to do w/porn. If it gets your heart to racing and you feel the same as though you're viewing pornography, then it will give you the same end results. Porn induced ED and the whole 9 yards man. Hell you could go and watch a Hollywood movie with a scene that you know for a fact is a bit "extra" for a movie sex scene, get hooked on that, and still end up with ED. My advice. Don't do it. Beat the 30 day counter and if you absolutely feel as though you're going to have a moment of relapse, use your thoughts instead and don't put a death grip on it. That's a part of the reason men end up with ED. Good luck.
Well, I wouldn't call it "made to fap to" considering its not meant to be in a sexual way but yea, kind of light dressed...I'm sure you've been to a gym so you know what type of girls I am referring to. Yes well, it does give me a pump in the heart when I watch them. So in that way its related to porn. Smart said, thank you!
So, right now I am watching all kinds of videos on youtube but I remove any video that gives me sexual arousal and it is working very good. Does any of you think that it will be all the same as watching everything or better when actually trying to remove anything that gets me aroused?
When is the last time you fapped only to the fetishes in your mind? Are you sure you can still do it? It sneaks up on you quicker than you think. I don't have fetishes, per se, but I do have definite tastes when it comes to the porn I used to watch. Then before I knew it I was the poster child for Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED). I have not been technically diagnosed, but I am convinced I suffer from this. Then irrespective of stimulus, there's the question of frequency. Do you ever binge? Multiple times over one or multiple days? If you answer yes to any of these questions then you have a problem and need to address it. Stay strong and strive to achieve, Geyser
Oh yea, its very effective! No of course not. Some stuffs you will see whether you like it or not and it will/ could get you aroused. But doing what you can and actually trying to be serous about it helps alot! Yea, I watch Game of Thrones and all that kind of stuffs. But I change/ quit when I get aroused. And happily the power to be able to do that comes when you start to take things seriously. Yea, what I have learned or noticed is that I have an even easier time controlling my urges and I can withstand from fapping. Difference from everyday is that sometimes I can watch an attractive girl and not get aroused at all and another day it turns me on big time! And yes, I am also hoping that it will slowly but surely get me back to normal levels and actually being able to be truly attracted and aroused by a girl and by the touch of a girl. Which is my main goal!
Sunday 2 weeks ago. Almost 2 weeks ago. Yea well, I hope so. Yea I believe I suffer from it too. Even tho its been more than a year since I last had sex so I truly have no idea if I have made any type of progress. What is binge? Well so far none is a true yes factor but I believe one or two of them are yes.
The whole process of excessive masturbation leads to ED, regardless what you're jerking it to. The fetishes you look at are definitely linked to dopamine, since you derive pleasure from the experience. I think I've answered your questions.
Ok so basically stop or massively reduce masturbation will remove my ED? Yea they are linked to dopamine. But what about them? remove them completely or just watch what I can watch and leave it like that? as long as I dont masturbate to any of it?
There could be other causes for your ED, including smoking, alcoholism, or a high drug intake. But quitting masturbation should improve the general situation. I would try to abstain from both masturbation and your fetishes for 90 days, to give your body a chance for a reboot, and then decide how to continue depending on your condition. Because if you don't abstain from everything linked to the cycle for an increased amount of time, you really won't know how it's effecting you. I hope I'm being clear.
STOP masturbation and your penis will gradually recover, whereas if you reduce it, it will take much longer. STOP viewing the stimulating fetishes, otherwise that will also slow down your recovery/reboot. This strict approach will give you the best outcome in the shortest possible time. Don't tell yourself it is just OK to...
I dont smoke or do drugs. My alcohol level is below average, infact its close to none. Ok, yea thats what I'm doing now so I'm gonna keep doing that for atleast 90 days. Well I am thinking about doing a 6 month streak from masturbation, porn and fetishes to lower my dopamine level to normal. Of course I won't stay away from sex if that would come to happen. Ok, good point! You're being very clear and very helpful, thank you very much!
I need help guys! So now for two days (this day is third) I have gotten some strong urges AND there were some girls at the gym with fantastic athletic bodies and I have literally had a boner for 3 days straight now. My urges feel like they are on fire and I dont know how much longer I can hold this up because it feels like (excuse the language) a fucking pain in the ass. Now these girls aren't digital but real girls that I've seen at the gym! AND yesterday when I was on a walk I walked by a woman, like usual I keep eye contact with girls (gotten much better at it since I started tho), but she looked back, and she didn't break it so we basically stared at each other for a few sec until I passed her and I know I should have smiled and said hi but I just in the heat of the moment gave a pretty angry look but after that I walked with basically a boner for 30 min. Same thing happened today at the gym even tho now I didn't maintain eye contact but looked back and forth (Not down!), so I basically gave her several looks but nothing longer that maybe 3 sec. And I just haven't been able to forget about it and tonight I slept like shit and my urges and thoughts were uncontrollable. What the fuck do I do?!? Again, excuse the language. I'm just not able to control myself right now.
