In my childhood nobody explained me anything about PMO and it’s harm. Because of my addiction I have some knowledge and continue to educate myself. So I hope, when the time will come, I can explain to my nephews and future children (if I have) what a f***ing shit it is. Can you find something positive in your p addiction experience?
Absolutely, but only if I focus on the positive rather than the negative. My mind seems to default to talking at me a hundred miles an hour about the negative about everything, the world at large . All the negative about other drivers on the road, my family, Co workers and my boss and company, my self, pm+ (which interestingly enough co-occurs with the psuedo positive about pm+ only not so with other topics and different from an objective compassion for the self who chose pm+ so many times because it felt pleasurable to his body but a judgmentalism that benefits no one), people in groups I don't belong to, people in groups I do belong to, all within seconds of waking up no exaggeration As for the benefits, which in my case only come when I'm sober they're not for be inherent to being a PM+ addict, some I am enjoying are: love, connection and commitment. I had a love-hate relationship with most things in life before, especially pm+. Now that I haven't had to use pm+ for many days and have no plans to go back I also don't have to either love or hate pm+. Sometimes I find my self slipping back into that mindset, judging people who act in whatever ways, but the sea level is rising for me every year or even every month. More and more often not loving or hating pm+, all that turning to true love of self and other humans, among other things. One theory that night be true is that pm+ and sex addiction are deeply confused quests for true love and joy, selling for pleasure, physical affection instead of the real goal. And if course there's nothing Wrong with pleasure or any kind of affection, there is with hurting other people which was a by product of my acting out. I thought pm+ want hurting anyone, that's just the minds ability to believe anything it wants to believe, thankfully we no longer have to believe every thing that we think
Yes that's true. At some point we should speak out and tell the people we care. Concerning the positive aspect, in my opinion they are the same for every short term pleasure. What are the positive aspect of drinking apple juice ? Well, it tastes good. That's all. The same goes for porn. It tastes good. Now this short term pleasure comes with many drawbacks (and that's why many of us want to stop). It's not the same for apple juice. I can't see any other positive aspect than the short term pleasure. Speaking of Epicureanism, it's not worth it as it causes you more harm than pleasure
Short-term pleasure and release of dopamines in our brain I don’t see as a positive thing now, it’s one of the main reasons we became addicted. I mean by this thread we tend to complain how pmo have ruined or damaged our life, what we would become without it, etc., and it’s true and OK, but can you find something positive (in long term) in this negative experience?
I'm not quite sure whether this is true or not. But my therapist once said: Being exposed to a strong addiction like PMO from an early age on and battling it for years and even decades is tough, but it has one upside: Once you successfully overcame it, you are shielded and better prepared against future addictions and crises (like mid-life crisis), cause you know and experienced how the triggers and addiction mechanisms work. What do you think about that statement?
Of course there is no positive in pmo itself, what I mean can you find something positive in your negative experience with pmo in past, when now you are trying to (or even succeed) to completely get rid of it.