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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, May 12, 2020.

  1. Dale848

    Dale848 Fapstronaut

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    Super glad you came back. No judgement here. This is something we all struggle with. You are learning about yourself. You probably have already done this, but reflect on how you got pulled in. It might help to have a personal journal of what was going on in your life and factors that contributed to the relapse. That allows you to look at your own patterns over time and learn more about yourself.

    I would like to share something that I have recently caught myself doing. I hope my explanation isn't confusing. Just recently I started allowing a second look at beautiful women I see, or maybe a picture of a swimsuit model that appeared in the add section while I was reading the news. During one of my "second looks" I felt triggered. It occurred to me in that moment that I was trying to have it both ways. Looking, (not at porn this time), and feeling the rush of adrenaline, but then do nothing about it. This is a recipe for disaster because I know (from the past) that I will slowly move closer and closer to porn and eventually relapse. Part of me has been a little prideful (now that I am past the 30 day mark) and I wanted to test to see if I could do a little thought fantasy and get away with it without moving towards PMO. Fortunately, my thoughts changed to asking myself what the heck I was doing before PMO! I know I cant have it both ways, and never will. I have always relapsed in the past when I allow the "seemingly small" and "harmless" thoughts to dwell, but then hook me until I relapse. Every day is a challenge, with some days easy and some hard. I will just have to live one day at a time...thats all I can do anyway.
     
  2. We all have been having unusual levels of success lately in NoFap since joining, and you will too if you keep on learning from your moments of weakness. Relapses expose holes in your battle plan, and it's your job to keep adapting until this becomes your lifestyle.
     
  3. This was a pretty accurate depiction of what happened to me in my last relapse. Love that part near the end "I know I cant have it both ways, and never will." Will keep that in mind as I work my way back up again. You give this monster an inch, and it'll take you a mile.
     
  4. On day 5 currently since my relapse and I feel back on track! I'm definitely starting to feel some more of the benefits than when I first started on this journey, and it's really helping me to hate my old life-style and to not ever want to go back. Each day in NoFap keeps getting better (except days with urges) and I'm really happy with all the progress I've made so far
     
  5. thinking_differently

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    Yeahh! Good to hear about that Appropriate Mindset! And that you’re getting out of the whole of early days. Keep going bro..

    I’m doing fine..Had a horrid dream I relapsed and Chaser effect troubled me today. Otherwise, my mind is so much clearer! I’m enjoying my subject even deeply now!

    Stay Safe and Stay Strong boiis!
    And as I always say, please, stay calm. Lol.
     
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  6. I also had an identical dream not too long ago during my last streak I believe and it gave me some of the worst urges in my life that I somehow resisted. You got this bro!
     
  7. sp9923

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    hello best of luck bro
     
  8. Best of luck to you too!
     
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  9. Got some serious brain fog and feel semi depressed. Mind and body definitely going through withdrawal now. #growthmindset I will push through. Almost at 10 days.
     
  10. DANG IT... The trigger is my phone. I've read of people doing a tech fast, and that will be the next step in adapting for me. Just ordered a digital alarm clock on Amazon so I can keep my phone out of my room at night, and I will be completely shutting my phone off during set hours that make sense for me. I'll only feel terrible about relapsing last night unless I take solid action going forward, so I will be implementing all of these things asap and will let you all know how it goes for me. I WON'T GIVE UP
     
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  11. MakeorBreakTime

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    Thanks, guys. I have been doing really well the past couple days, no thoughts or urges. It actually seems a bit easier to control, overall. But tonight I had an argument with my girlfriend and it pushed me to where I found myself looking at porn again... I know it's dumb to do, that's why I'm back here... I just need to read some posts from you guys and get my mind right.
     
  12. thinking_differently

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    @MakeorBreakTime
    The more you seek porn, in such times, the farther you are drawn from her. Fuck porn and Choose your girlfriend who cares and FUCK those Slu*

    Stay STRONG brother!
     
  13. So true! Really good response right here! PMO kills love, so when you fight it you are fighting for her instead of against her. PMO is just gonna make things worse and cause more arguments. The short term pleasure will cause long term displeasure in your relationship. Recently I fell back at square one, but took action to avoid again in the future. I found a specific trigger in a specific situation that my brain gravitated towards, and I removed that trigger and will thus am making my mind choose a better option next time. Find a different way to vent out and start doing it in those situations!
     
  14. MakeorBreakTime

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    Fuck, guys. The argument with my girlfriend carried over to today... I tried to be rational and talk it out with her, but it felt like she didn't really care what I had to say... and it's like this voice in my head is asking me what the point is. I know I can't blame anyone else but myself for my actions, and I know we all have our own problems... But damn, it's really been a bad day for me. I feel like any progress I thought I had made is unraveling. I'll try to be better tomorrow. I hope you guys are accomplishing your goals.
     
  15. thinking_differently

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    I am no one to say this, but:
    Sit down with her, talk it out.
    And after the discussion, Do something for each other, make dinner! whatever you love!
     
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  16. Feeling great so far! My alarm clock is coming in the mail today so I'll never have to have my phone by me in my room at night again! Gonna be a huge life-saver for not giving into temptation!
     
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  17. MakeorBreakTime

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    You're right... I'm going to try (again) to have a rational discussion and see if we can work past this issue. Thanks, man.
     
  18. Lion's Roar

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    I give you boys my advice: Never do P-O or M-O or whatever to reach orgasm without having sex with a girl.
     
  19. Was tempted to relapse this morning but fought the urges away. The streak continues!
     
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  20. I hope to be able to casually say this in a thread too once I've had success LOL we'll get there eventually!
     
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