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Quick advice please!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Black_Knight 1998, Sep 6, 2020.

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  1. Sep 6, 2020 #1
    Black_Knight 1998

    Black_Knight 1998 Fapstronaut

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    Today was the 30th day of my reboot but unfortunately i relapsed and i found myself in the last period relapse every about 26 up to 30s day , and in the last few months I found that i relapse when using any social media app by saying I'll look at this girl and continue till look at so hot sexy pictures which i may watch a pornographic picture or implicit pornographic clip to end by ejaculating on these things and then continue the normal relapse.

    And this time i didn't feel i wanna watch porn i felt i wanna engage in full relationship with its love and i was watching this porn i felt this isn't what i really want. Actually the main cause this time i was searching for a girl but I ended up with sexual dating group,so i said I'll watch a little pictures but ended as i described above .

    İ decided that I'll remove facebook and quora apps .
    İ made a post in loneliness but no one responded,so for brief during my reboot i suffer from strong depression and loneliness and i can't handle these thoughts,so how can I deal with it ?

    İ don't know how to get a girlfriend because i can't deal well with girls ,so any advices please?

    Thanks in advance
     
    Black_Knight 1998, Sep 6, 2020
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  2. Sep 6, 2020 #2
    TransverseWaves

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    Hey sorry to hear you're having a tough time. Just being able to reach consistent 30 day streaks is already a huge achievement, lot's of people find even a couple of days extremely hard. I can empathise a lot with feeling isolated, especially during lockdown. Firstly practising mindfulness meditation has given me a tool to deal with anxiety/depressive episodes, regular meditation really does help. However for a long term fix it helps to identify why you feel lonely and what you can do about it. For me it is due to my avoidant personality and low self esteem which has developed due to this addiction meaning I've lost opportunities to make friends or develop romantic connections. I'm trying to remedy this by practising NoFap but also trying to be more social at my new college and spending less time alone and more time on group hobbies. A girlfriend will be a by-product of a fulfilling social life, go out and meet new people, make new friends, develop deeper connections and chances are you will meet a nice girl. You say you are bad at talking to girls but from my experience NoFap lets your natural charisma out and it's a matter or practise makes perfect.
     
    TransverseWaves, Sep 6, 2020
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