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Returning back to the site to right the wrongs

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Will Mars, Feb 6, 2017.

  1. Will Mars

    Will Mars Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone,

    Just returning back to get back on track and without support of people going through same challenges it's hard and mostly embarassing in real life to share. I have taken all steps possible from reading exercising, meditation, CBT, new hobbies, spirituality, but still keep relapsing as sometimes physical symptoms of headaches urges emotional instability make me go back. This has effed me up so much sometimes even questionable of orientation as that is one of the effects. So hopefully can get to hear your guys journey and learn how to surpass body's fight when you stop. Also offer any support I can. God bless!
     
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  2. Fighter84

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    My good man! Glad you're here, truly. If I'm hearing you right then I gotta say I like how you aren't giving up and you keep fighting. I'd say that quality of yours is a critical piece of your "being" upon which you can build recovery. I hear you, a lot of this easier said than done, and yet it can be done. I wish you best and may God bless you and give you all you need tlove continue on your journey.
     
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  3. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Welcome back to NoFap where you are still amongst friends who are here to encourage you and not judge you.

    What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
     
  4. Will Mars

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    I appreciate your support it is indeed hard, it's like martial arts building discipline one day at a time working on craft i.e. The mind and body.

    lpreciate y
     
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  5. Will Mars

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    Thanks for your reply, yes this time I'd like to just dissolve the old into new habits such as not being isolated too long if thinking too long I journal on phone self affirmations play challenging games talk more, martial arts, meditation accepting what is done is done and be a new person. How about you? New ways of dealing and what phase of this development are you in? Also any strategies that helped you most. God bless.
     
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    D . J . Fapstronaut

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  7. Will Mars

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    Wow that was very well laid out man I appreciate the link will come back and read in times of urges and triggers. I do identify with most of the points there. Only question I have is triggers wise my worst is in person at work talking to a good looking coworker or hearing her on phone sets me off in order to want to indulge sexually but to stay within limits the frustration builds inside. During work hours I can't really go for walk or run. Have you faced urges in face of female coworkers? It really clouds my judgement skills. Thanks
     
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  8. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Some things take time. You have to see your coworkers as people not potential people to have sex with. You have to see her as someone, firstly, as someone who doesn't want you. Secondly, look at her closely, not up close but closely. Often times we fantasize about people we see because we see them as having some sort of physical perfection. If you look at anyone closely enough, you will see a physical flaw. That flaw, which we all have, makes her human and human enough to remove her from the highly desired person on a pedestal which you have placed her. So the next time you see her, you will see the flaw and snap you out of your fog and back into reality. That has worked for me.

    What you are doing is making her into a porn-substitute.
     
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  9. Will Mars

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    This is golden coz I catched myself noticing some things wrong kn women but then I feel judgemental and just change thinking and feel like a square like what's wrong with checking the menu, a little novelty doesn't hurt. But your right mind tricks us into substituting as I did M fantasizing them. Thanks bro.
     
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    Just revisiting on the topic, seeing women almost makes my system hyperexcited smallest of conversations I take them too far in mind and imagine it to sex. Did that happen to anyone? If yes how did you eventually get past.
     
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