role of a girlfriend in recovering

The purpose of nofap is not asexuality but to improve sexual function in relationship (at least for me and presumably for most others). You absolutely should not make this decision immediately after a relapse. That is rash. If you are unhappy with the relationship, then by all means, but take some more time to think about it. I know how I am after a relapse: frustrated and angry. Those can lead to poor decisions. Just think more on it.

A girlfriend could be a great motivator and aid in recovery. I know for people with certain fetishes, real sex was the final and decisive blow to ending those fetishes. Likewise, for porn addicts, the introduction of love/affection and real physical contact during the act can lessen affinity for porn.

Sorry for long post. But seriously, wait to make that decision.

 

My guess is she wants you to take some control. Maybe I am wrong. It seems strange that she would talk dirty with you regularly but have no plans on sleeping with you. How steadfast is she in her belief? Is she very religious?
Anyway bro this is your choice of course.. At least sleep on it. 3 years is a long time and you might miss her more than you realise.

 

I think that u are right, we have to do sacrifice to get cured. U are like a man who cant drink cold water during three days and then will be cured. If u respect it u will get cured and able to enjoy the water being healthy. If u are stupid and cant wait three days without drinking, ur diseases will worsen u wont enjoy the water cuz u are ill and it will get worse and worse. By the way, reading the description of ur gf i think that u better leave her, she is seducing u, ur urges are harder and harder to be contained and she is avoiding the act so u will end up on porn.

 

Just stumbled on this thread.
Difficult to advise anyone on whether to break up with someone, let alone over internet, but I would think hard on the following;
* Is GF 'teasing' you / talking dirty so much exactly because you can't have sex until marriage? she might be horny too! You might argue that her doing this is better than doing nothing?!
* Can the pair of you do any activity that is not actual sex before marriage?
* Does she want to get married to you soon or eventually? Do you want the same?
* Have you had frank and open conversations on these subjects or do you think she should just know what you're thinking?
* How is the relationship in general (completely outside the physical side)

There seems to be a lot of options before it comes to breaking up. But don't string someone along and then dump them out of the blue