Hi, I am trying to quit porn but I am scared to go to a hooker. I don't want to. My question is: Is this a withdrawal syndrome that will pass away or how does it work. I holded on 18 days. Than one week. But I didn't watch porn. I was on hooker sites. I have this ultimate desire to touch a woman. Help me I have never had sex before.
It's normal, and if you don't entertain the thoughts and urges it will pass. Just focus on other things when you have this desire, or snap a rubber band on your wrist as a reminder. Your brain is healed enough to realize it wants you to have sex with a real woman, but not healed enough to know the difference between selfishness and love. That is something we all need to work on in our minds too, not just our brains. I would say it's bad to have sex with a prostitute from a moral standpoint. It doesn't show the girl the respect she deserves as a person, it reduces her to just some object for your pleasure. It also could be really unhealthy. Prostitutes have sex with a lot of guys, and contract a lot of sexually transmitted diseases as a result. The risk of catching one is pretty high. From a NoFap standpoint, I think it would also be bad. Meaningless sex is just like porn and masturbation. You're rewiring your brain to not want a dopamine fix, so giving it one in the form of a hookup instead of PMO is just as bad for your recovery, maybe worse Honestly, I would save sex for the woman you marry. It's an amazing thing, and when done correctly with self giving and love, it's a thousand times better than some prostitute or video. I suspect that the hooker sites actually were porn too. You should avoid them just like all other porn. Definition of PORNOGRAPHY. 1. : the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement. 2. : material (as books or a photograph) that depicts erotic behavior and is intended to cause sexual excitement.
Aw man, it's tough. Remember that it is a choice. You chose to get on the forums here, so you must have made a choice to pursue a healthier form of sexuality in you life. And you can choose not to go to a prostitute. We'll support you.
I have reverted to hooker sites when trying to give up porn. But I realised that hooker sites are just exactly the same as porn. You have to give up all of this stuff which leads to objectification.
What g2 says is true: all artificial sexual stimulation, be it porn, hooker sites, adult chats, even just thinking of sex is, during the reboot, just a button you are pushing to get a dopamine high. This is not a porn addiction, porn and artificial sexual stimulation are just buttons we push to get what we really want, the euphoria of a dopamine high. I consider hookers a very bad idea on so many levels, I think hookers and the people who pay for them are really doing a ton of self damage. But for purposes of the reboot, hookers are just another way to get a dopamine high, so avoid it. I suggest the hard 90, 90 days no porn, no porn substitutes, no remembering porn, no imagining it, and try to keep your sexual thoughts to a minimum. If you can get that 90 days in I think your perspective will be much clearer. Get yourself clean and you will find it much easier to have a healthy relationship with a living, breathing, human partner. Peace.
