I couldn't find a forum for depression, so guessed loneliness was the nearest thing. This is just some random rambling. I felt like writing it down, but my no-PM journal didn't feel like the right place. Hope that's OK. I think I struggle with bouts of depression, triggered usually by feelings of: Rejection (e.g. wife snapping at me if I suggest sex, like it's some sort of swear word); Loneliness (e.g. not having much in common with people I work with, and never really having any real kind of friends. I used to have lots of female friends, never many male friends, but then that wasn't really appropriate after getting married, so now I dont go out and socialise at all) Being trapped (e.g. this is my life now. I'm 33 and that was it.) People talk about depression as something that alters your thinking, so you can't see clearly and you think irrationally. But I'm worried that actually, depression is seeing the world as it really is; moments of actually seeing past the normal distractions of life that can keep you entertained, and seeing instead the unadulterated truth. As I say, I'm just rambling. Mods feel free to delete if this is unhelpful / off topic or whatever.
Hello, Loneliness can be derived from a lack of self love, love from others, the need for approval and validation off of others. As humans we are social creatures and not being social can make us feel isolated which further develops our need attention. I strongly recommend practicing gratitude, self love, compassion, empathy development and affirmations. This will make you feel happier in life if practiced daily and a sense of connection to people. I think you need to find out why sex has become an issue in your relationship and resolve that first !
Its Strange right? Sometimes i get those fellings that everyone has something in comon and other times i feel Like im diferent but i guess thats ok You don't need many friends,Just one to there good friends is great at your age. As people grow up It looks Like we lose the skill to make friends you know? Well wish you luck in life,nofap And stuff
There is a section of philosophy that discuss this deeply buddy. It is called existentialism. Many of us (including me) have gone through it. So your ultimate quest is to find meaning. I remember a quote about it (and I'm forget who said that, and I'm too lazy to search. LOL) that said: A meaning is anything that prevents you from shooting yourself in the face. So good luck finding it.
I too suffer from depression for a very long time I don't have any tips for that but i can tell you my coping mechanism. When I am depressed what I do is simply nothing to escape it. I just accepted it and its slowly waning in its severity because you cannot control everything in this world sometimes our mind is the most complex thing to solve and most difficult to control. I think we should embrace it with grace and I am practicing it. Remember nothing and no one is perfect in this world.
All I can say is I know that feel. Most of the time I feel fine but some days I wake up and feel a sense of loneliness so overwhelming it makes me want to cry, I get angry at my friends for no reason and have no energy for anything. I used to get like this before I started NoFap so I know it isnt because of that (although NoFap can trigger these mood swings it isnt the direct cause) and honestly I still cant 100% pinpoint the reason why it happens. Having said that on some level I know its because I dont get out of the house enough, I know its because my friends live too far away to do anything with them, I know its because my education is boring, I know its because I dont and have never had a girlfriend, I know its because I have nothing meaningful going on in my life. I still manage to stay positive 95% of the time because I stopped being so hard on myself. I stopped allowing the anxiety of WANTING RESULTS RIGHT THIS SECOND to cloud reality and now I let life takes its course and focus on my own self betterment even if it means waiting a long time to see results. The key to happiness for me is to balance motivation for a better life with acceptance of the current one, too much of either will mess you up. I have no idea if anything I just said makes any sense, I guess I'm just rambling now as well, I still hope something I said was helpful on some level.
