The only way to get rid of this vermin is getting snipped from the internet.

After dealing with this crap for long enough, I have to agree. We can't keep constantly using the internet when we're trying to quit porn and fapping. This morning, I decided enough was enough. From now on because of this habit, I'm only allowing myself on the internet for 3 hours, and not 3 hours in a row.

We still have to use it for some things, but we can't pretend we can constantly use it while we're trying to recover from our habits.

So you know what? I'll join you on this dude.

 

I know people who have been sober from PMO addiction for 10+ years and still use internet with proper boundaries without blockers.

Most people I know who use blockers fail.

Now if you think that you can use social media casually and maintain long-term abstinence from PMO then you are kidding yourself.


I have been free from PMO by the grace of God for 165 days in a row with no blockers. I do use strict boundaries (i.e. I dont use social media)

 

Aside from no social media, what other kind of boundaries do you use?

 

1. Avoid all social media
2. Avoid news aggregate websites.
3. Avoid using casually browsing the web at all if you can
4. Instead use safe or controlled resources: NoFap forums, messengers, YouTube (once it's cleaned up)
5. Try to not use phone at night in bed
6. Good sleeping habits, good eating habits
7. Relapses start with fantasy or euphoric recall. If I don't fantasize, or recall toxic images in my mind, I will not have urges to act out
8. Avoid looking at objects of attraction out in public
9. Alcohol is the enemy, it lowers inhibition. Cannabis can be a sexual trigger too
10. Try to not spend much time looking at yourself nude in the mirror. Avoid touching yourself in sensitive areas as much as you can apart from obvious hygienic needs.

Recovery is not about a bunch of boundaries and restrictions. Recovery is about building a new life of abstinence and sobriety. But without healthy boundaries I could never get sober

 

Indeed, internet could be so dangerous for P addicted people. I claim that P is the worst and it was fueled by social medias and misinformation aswell (like "studies proving that P is not harmful" or "scientists saying that you should do M for at least x days on a month to avoid prostate cancer" and etc). Now, i'm using it to study and look for good info, avoiding social medias at all and setting boundaries for entertainment stuff.

 

Probably means he’s been an addict as long as you’ve been alive.

 

To be fair older people never grew up in the age of social media. For the first 18-20 years of my life, Facebook didn't exist let alone Instagram and TikTok. Despite this, it still has a negative effect on me but it must be worse for people who grew up with it. Having said that some young people on this forum can be quite arrogant. There's this 19-year-old on this forum who acts as if he knows everything, he's even on the relationship section giving married people advice.

 

I agree and I fear for the kids who have grown up with this. Im just pointing out that anyone who is addicted will have a difficult time, even if it’s for different reasons. There was no help or understanding that this could be an addiction when my husband was 19. Not when he was 25, or 30. I did my best to shield my kids from it, unfortunately it was rampant with their friends and at school.