Tips for overcoming PIED (it helped me A LOT)

Gonna bookmark your post and read it everytime I feel like relapsing, really inspiring! Thank you for sharing

 

Hey man, I’m super impressed not only by the fact you started this thread, and that you shared your experiences (including the failures), but also because 3 years on you are dedicated to helping people that find this place.

***This post got a bit long and whiny, my actual question(s) is at the end...***

I’m struggling to be brutally honest. I consider myself to be pretty horny all the time and I’ve had a fairly active sexual life in the past. I’ve had on and off ED over the years, I suppose more bad than good.

I’ve been watching porn since 15 at least (I’m 35), and I’ve got more and more reliant on it.
I recently got a girlfriend and she is so amazing and supportive. In short, we have a long distance relationship, but we were video calling each other and we got kinky and we got really comfortable with each other quickly and my video calls with her replaced my porn usage. However, we met up recently to confirm our feelings for each other. Sad to say basically I had a week of basically not really having sex. I tried (a lot) but failed so bad, I felt like my soul broke a little every time I failed. Usually we had to “finish” with me masturbating. It’s so embarrassing to talk about. Anyway, this experience has kinda been the straw that broke the camels back, she is still with me and we are planning on the future and building something. (I really stumbled on to an amazing woman). But I’m worried that I’m gonna lose her because ultimately I won’t be able to satisfy her properly.

I’m rambling a bit now, so long story short, I came back home and watched porn and got back to decent erections and orgasms again, although I’m not really doing the video sex with my girlfriend...

I’ve actually floated the porn addiction thing with her and she agreed I should stop watching (I failed). I think that the NoFap challenge is what I need, but I’m worried she will be upset that this would mean that I’d have to stop our “virtual intimacy”. Which makes me worry that I’ll lose her.

So, could I still re-wire if I stop using porn but continue to be intimate with my girlfriend online? And only with her? Does this count towards the connection to someone special?

Thanks again for this thread man, you are a legend!