Okay, well I am completely new here, but not new to this porn addiction "OBSESSION" I am sure so many of you have experienced. Once I learnt my partner had an ADDICTION I have been OBSESSIVELY watching youtube videos, reading articles, visiting sites with porn addiction info- and now finally at the point of joining a forum. My boyfriend of three years has recently admitted his addicted. Hes been PMO since five years old, several times a day, every day. (we are early 30 now). Hes never quit porn or had to reduce his usage his whole life. However with quarantine,his father dying this summer in a very traumatic way in front of us AND us moving in together this summer stresses have INTENSE. Needless to say A LOT of ingredients for "HIGH FAPPING." Our intimacy issues were struggling but I THOUGHT it was solely because of all of these tragedies- I did not know my partner was addicted. With all this being said the tragedies pushed him to go on a spiritual journey and that really motivated him to want to try and stop. This, Along with our intimacy issues; me questioning why he couldn't perform sexually or climax with me now that we could have sex often since we were now living together. This is when HE learnt it was an addiction and had to relay it to me because he couldn't stop. I've been honest with him about everything and how this is a HARDLINE for me and i will have to leave if he does not take quitting seriously. In the past Ive been really angry about it and shamed him and I now realize how that starts a vicious cycle cause hes more tempted to go to porn when we fight. He told me its a personal problem deeply ingrained in him so he has to stop for himself and I can't hoover around and nag about it but just lovingly support. We've had really heated discussions in the past where I did not feel heard but today was different. We were calm and honest and I feel we had a real breakthrough.... He's now willing to "learn" about what it does to the brain and how it actually effects our RELATIONSHIP, not just his ability to get hard. My question here is now that we've had this talk and he sees the severity of the situation, do I let him be and go about this by himself? Especially since he has such a spiritual motivation for it now? Do I only ask if don' t see improvement? We've exhausted the talk lately so I do not want to bring it up ahain right now and drive him away since our last talk was SO pleasant... Let me be clear... I know its not that hes NOT trying. For someone who used to watch porn at least 1-2 hours daily, EVERY DAY since a child, I know its hard. Hes been trying to stop for about a month now...And hes down to only watching it like 1-2 a week and only for a very short amount of time, 10 min or so. The longest he's gone is six days since seriously trying. BUt since I learnt he has an addiction and of the detrimental effects it has, I feel myself SOOOOO impatient with this being out of our lives. Am I being too impatient? What has everyones experience been? DO i sit and trust, especially now that we had SUCH AN AMAZING convo? Ughhh this is such a crazy thing!!!