Went to an escort on day 77

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by turbz11, Jul 25, 2015.

  1. turbz11

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    Went to an escort on day 77 and had two blow jobs. How badly will this effect my streak? I've obviously reset but will I still keep some of the benefits?
     
  2. NoBrainer

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    You will. Just don't go to a bloody escort again!
     
  3. Kurapika 2

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    Going to escorts is a very bad idea but I don't consider this a reset in regards to NoFap.
     
  4. 8BitsOfStuggling

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    It is only a reset if you consider it a reset, based on your goals that you set. Nobody else can set your goals
     
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  5. numpty

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    No its not.

    Fair enough you paid for it but you went for the real thing and didnt use your mind or porn!

    You done very well.

    To be fair i think you're pretty much recovered get yourself a gf!!

    Dont go to escorts ever again - if you get an std that's far more worse than fapping!!

    Most people reset by M. But you didn't...
     
  6. Limeaid

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    I disagree completely. Did you pick this woman out online, get excited about the prospect of fucking her and then go blow your load? This is real life porn. Dopamine surges affect reboot. You do not get massive dopamine surges from regular sex with a regular woman who is not a "sure thing".
     
  7. Pixelated Victory

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    Sex with a human being you don't have profound feelings for is considered a relapse in my book. If there is any positive in all of this it is that you most definitely did gain a lot from these 77 days, and hopefully you have a good frame of mind to be determined and devour the 90 day challenge now.
     
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  8. numpty

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    Feelings have nothing to do with it. You can have feelings and be in relationship yet you cant perform because of pmo.

    You're making it extreme.

    Guys out there fuck up just before 90 days because they can't hold the urge and pmo mostly due to being single and too shy to talk to girls becauee they nevrr had a proper relationship.

    Reboot is not just about recovering from pied or ed or m but to be rewired and go for the real thing.

    This is what the op did but he paid for it. Fact is he did with a real woman regardless of escort or not.

    By saying you will only try to check recovery after 90 days in a proper relationship with someone and you may not find someone as soon as that 90 days is over. So some guys propose another 90 days and beyond. And then when they relapse at 120-200+ days they beat them selves up about it! !

    What does this tell u? That we all need to release at some point.

    So on that note lets be sensible and not stupid and unrealistic!

    The guys on here that are married or have long term gfs and are rebooting some of them still have sex within first 90 days.... that won't help pied ed etc

    I seen some people talk utter nonsense on here with unrealistic goals.

    And i am talking from experience. When i tried rebooting earlier jn this year i had gf and sex but i reduced M and edging by 80%. But now am single it's so hard and I gone to old ways. So having a woman helps.

    Just don't pay for it!
     
  9. Progressive Death Mettle

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    Yeah. Do this challenge for your personal benefit - not for the approval of low-lives on the internet.
     
  10. 8BitsOfStuggling

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    Well that was extremely uncalled for. By that definition, you sir are a low-life because you use internet.
     
  11. NoBrainer

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    The "real thing". That's an ironic statement in this context. :rolleyes: If people want to replace their PMO addiction with a sex addiction, they can suit themselves I guess...
     
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  12. numpty

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    well guys that live normal lives ARE addicted to sex... that's why women say men think about sex???!

    I don't know what some guys on here propose or believe. Am starting to think whether they wish to become monks that have no sex / release or they wish to kill their sex drive and become like the 40 year old virgin fella!

    OP had two options in my opinion - either fap or get released by someone. Most guys on recovery mess up due to fap... and beat themselves up about it! That's not the way forward...

    yes the chaser affect may cause a new addiction but if he had sex with a gf the chaser will still be there. He needs to get a gf.
     
  13. turbz11

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    I agree with you to an extent. I didn't look at her pics beforehand. Just called the agency I had there number from months before. And they say blah blah is available so I went over and did the thing.
    My question is have I blown my benefits from this visit to the escort. I feel pretty shit to be honest.
     
  14. IGY

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    Hmm, porn = prostitution. Upon what do you base that @aziz?
     
  15. axy_david

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    This post is so bad I wanna hang myself, thanks for completely destroying my day.
    Nofap is about mastering your sexuality, with the mentality of "either fap or get released by someone" you won't get far!
     
  16. axy_david

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    Why did you start nofap in the first place? Because you felt shitty. It boils down to one easy question, do you want to control your sexuality, or be a slave to it?
     
  17. axy_david

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    I think he meant that porn is base on prostitution, which is true. There have been many testimonies of former P actresses, they always say they've been pushed to do something they weren't comfortable with, plus the fact they don't go there because they like it, but because of the money, sounds like prostitution to me.
     
  18. IGY

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    I feel for you David. But when someone starts their comment with, 'normal guys are addicted to sex', you know that they are not going to contribute anything worthwhile.
     
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  19. IGY

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    I understand that. However, porn includes animation - no prostitution there. It also includes written erotica - no prostitution there. I wondered where the idea came from.
     
  20. Mr Eko

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    Turbz11,

    Don't you regret the waste of money?
     
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