What is Happiness?

JOY.

 

1)Jesus
2)Others
3)Yourself

=Happiness

 

Negative and positive / pain and pleasure / problems and solutions will always cycle. Taking responsibility for it all via how you react and perceive these events can determine the quality of your life. The way to the positive is through being able to handle the negative.

Happiness is growth. A sense of expansion. Pain, problems, and negative experiences are necessary for growth.

 

I haven't figured out happiness..

Work-> play->relationships is generally one big circle that needs to be harmonized.
You don't need to love your job, but you need to enjoy it and find some satisfaction in it.
Lets not forget that All work and no play makes jack a dull boy.
Options in life are also important. I remember last summer, I was seeing a girl who was a little bipolar. She came to mess around with me one afternoon and out of the blue she freaked out and had me drive her to the bus station. I did.
I went to a local bar, ran into a friend and was having a great time there. A beautiful brunette from California sat next to me. I bought her a drink and before you know it, we were fucking in my car in a Walmart parking lot.
Having sex with two girls in one day wasn't what made me happy. Knowing that I didn't have to settle did. Knowing that whenever a door closes a window opens is what keeps me going.

 

Life always finds away to settle back to around 7 out of 10 on the happy scale. No matter how tragic or amazing an event (like death of a family or winning the lottery) eventually you settle back around 7 out of 10. The problem is people don't think 7 out of 10 is good enough. They want 10 out of 10 everyday. So they chase this psychological 10 by doing things that spike their emotions all the time. Which lead to addictions like porn alcohol drugs and obsessive partying.

A lot of people yearn for completion. If I had this or that, I'd be complete and happy. They want to be complete so they can be at peace. So they drudge through life trying to be complete, but never enjoying the process of what they're actually doing.

It's not about the peak of the mountain. It's about the climb. What's the point of achieving anything if you can't enjoy right here and right now? What we're really after is changing the experience that you have with yourself. You want a beautiful woman and lots of money to feel better about yourself. Think more along the lines of how can you change the experience that you have with yourself from within rather than depending on the external.

You're already there, enough, and complete. So what will you do now? Not out of necessity, but because it gives you challenge / growth / enthusiasm / purpose / curiosity / enjoyment / etc.

If you were playing a video game and there was a cheat code to finish the game, that would be very boring and pointless. I would want to play the game by growing via the struggles and challenges.

 

@elevate mate I love reading your posts

 

Thanks Aradesh.

Offering advice is one of the things that gives me happiness.

I do things that makes me proud regardless of the outcome. That's self fulfilling. Self validating. Right action. Following your desires fully and not being attached to the outcome. Not depending on the external for temporary highs.

Find a way to sway your own heart so you can sway the hearts of others.

Find a way to fill your own cup so that you can overflow into the cups of others.

These are some of the thoughts / feelings / actions that allows me to enjoy the climb here and now rather than feeling the scarcity / lack / desperation of needing to be complete at the top of the mountain.

 

That would make an awesome signature

 

Happiness is what's left when you let go of all the false beliefs and thoughts that cause negative emotions.

Happiness is when reality meets your expectations. Things like advertisements / media / porn / social media can distort your expectations. These things can tell you that you're supposed to only have positive things happen to your life every single moment. Negative experiences / pain / problems are a part of life just as the positive experiences / pleasures / solutions.

Take responsibility for your well being by choosing your reactions and perceptions to life's events. There will always be a cycle of good and bad, but if you depend on them for your happiness then you'll always be like a leaf in the wind being controlled by life's ups and downs.

 

Happiness is when you get the things which you love the most.

 

Doing something challenging to you and fulfilling it.