I'm going through a kick-myself-in-the-ass realization that I'm lazy. Not as lazy as I could be but lazy enough to slap myself in the face and say you're better than this. I read a few posts and I'm kinda on the fence about this subject. Is it better to be a positive voice for someone recovering from this addiction or is it better to get in their face and say THIS IS THE SHIT YOU NEED TO DO. STOP GIVING YOURSELF EXCUSES AND DO THEM! This is a sore subject to me because I live in a family that believes in tough love. If you're suffering, you say "what am I doing wrong, and how can I change it?" I hate this because I've recently fell in love with the work of Brene Brown who is a vulnerability researcher and to put it simply, she says, to support someone you need to get in the hole with them instead of standing outside of it yelling down. I love this advice and I wish my family would do it for me. But they won't, so maybe I need to stop crying on the inside and start tough loving myself. Maybe its time for me buckle down and actually grab my balls and do what needs to be done to overcome this shit. I'm really confused and inspired at the same time. I want to know what you guys think about the difference between tough love and positive emotional support. Is one better than the other? Do we need a mixture of both to really thrive?