Why do women have to accept porn in a relationship nowadays?

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by vanessa123, Mar 22, 2020.

  1. vanessa123

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    Hi there,

    I have always seen porn use as cheating. I think it is just not healthy in a relationship. I have seen multiple times what it does to a man's view on sex and female body. I also think it is cheating because the only difference between watching porn and having sex with a woman in real life is the fact that the body is actually there.
    With porn, you can see multiple women in one session and you can see actually everything you would see when you would actually fuck a woman.
    I even think watching porn regularly in a relationship is more damaging than a guy who has sex with another woman for once.
    However, I feel like in society we as women we are Always been said that we have to accept porn use of men. They never talk about the negative effects on a relationship (and I am not even talking about addiction)?
    I feel like more and more guys tend to propose degrading acts to their girlfriends and I even heard some guys say they would like their girlfriend to do a boob job (clearly influenced by porn). I mean how healthy is that?
     
  2. How can you say it's worse than cheating??!

    My wife wouldn't agree! We used to watch p0rn together and sometimes make our own videos...yes, it's wrong but no where near as bad as physically cheating in my eyes.

    FYI, We weren't into the fake commercial porn with boob jobs, but the amateur couples stuff..homemade porn.
     
  3. palindromo

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    It is not healthy , but don't blame guys.
    They just think it is for ''boredom''. They enter in a teen age in sites that offers '' abused '' '' forced '' '' hentai '' '' cuckold '' '' incest '' .
    Porn is connected with virility in our society, it is all the opposite , porn ruins our virility.
    They enter porn to understand sex and than they remain addicted.

    On the other hand there are also many girls addicted .
    Thanks society and porn sites...
     
  4. Lilla_My

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    Don't listen to some of these guys. Most women think it's cheating, especially when porn is done in secret and have replaced a fully functioning sex life.

    You say porn is worse than having a one night stand once... I agree. Because both have happen to me. I have been cheated on both physically and with porn, and porn was worse, because it went on for years, replaced our sex life and included thousands and thousands of other women behind my back.
     
  5. Most men watch porn as a substitute for sex, cause in my eyes men have higher sex drives than women. Not always true, but from I've experienced and from other men I've spoken to.

    I don't know any man who would rather watch porn than have sex! Most men with porn addiction get fed up if their wives turning them down and give up!
     
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  6. Lilla_My

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    Maybe you should look into the journal's and entries of hundreds of women on here. The absolute majority have just as high sex drive as their husbands, yet doesn't get anything at home because their husbands prefer porn. It's a very well described phenomenon!

    Also, you seem to think that women don't have as high sex drive as men because they turn men down... Maybe she wants sex, but he doesn't do what needs to be done in order for her to want to have sex with him?

    I know your wife enjoys porn. So does most women. But women don't, in general, watch porn behind their husbands back because they consider it cheating.
     
  7. EyesWideOpen

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    You do not have to accept it. It doesn't matter what anyone else's opinion here is. This is your life, not theirs. Don't let anyone tell you your feelings are wrong because rhey have a different view. If you don't like it, don't accept it. I don't. I did at one time because I felt defeated and that it was a losing battle, but I absolutely do not anymore.
     
  8. Ok, I take that back! Women's sex drives fluctuate...well, my wife's does! But you women with high sex drives..are a blessing! If only your husbands could realise that!!!
     
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  9. Nucleus

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    Women shouldn’t have to accept porn. We should all reject porn and reject the Instagram culture. Reject Tinder and other degenerate crap our sick society feeds us. Reject feminism in all forms. Shame sluts and shame *****. Men need to read “Wild at Heart” by John Eldredge and learn what being a man is.
    Women can read “The politically incorrect guide to sex and feminism”

    Maybe we can all read the Bible.
     
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  10. palindromo

    palindromo Fapstronaut

    In my personal opinion , I think your speech is sexist . You should reevaluate your vision of men.
     
  11. PornSux2019

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    I agree with you, it's scientifically proven that generally women have a lower sex drive than men. Of course there are always exceptions and not every woman is the same, but for the majority it is true.
     
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  12. fg4795

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    Wrong question for this forum I am sorry, you will get only biased answers.
    I'll give you simple example, (no offense intended for the person I will quote):
    She is the wife of an addicted, and of course she thinks that men are all like this, that they all prefer porn to their wifes because in porn they can make happen what they want, I understand this, she suffered, and I am sorry for that, but this is her story, doesn't mean all men are really like this. Again, I really respect your sufferance, and hope the best for your life, but it is like this.
    Then you have a man with have a problem with P and also with his wife, of course he thinks that he is not like cheating, because he loves her, and maybe he thinks, that there was also something missing from her side.
    Again I can understand it, but this does not mean that she was her fault or that Porn in a relationship is good. It's just his vision.

    None of them answered but there's also females addicted, whom are in a relationship, and maybe they will tell you that P is wrong because women are more sensible to this or maybe they will tell you the opposite.
    And then I can give my opinion, that porn ruins relationship, that it is not men's fault, but society taught us that the more we have orgasms the more we are alpha, they say that is for faggot to not masturbate, and then we inconsciouly did it in a relationship, even if we really love our partner.
    But again, I am 24 and thanks to porn I was never able to be in real relationship, why my opinion should count?

    This is not the place to have the right answer you're searching for. We're all biased
     
  13. Psalm27:1my light

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    She’s nailed it! I went years trying to initiate sex only to be turned down. Me drive was through the roof when younger, now a few times a week is fine, but I’m going through menopause so it’s slowed down dramatically for me.
     
  14. Boggles my mind that a husband would choose porn over a willing woman! Those guys are so lucky to have such women!
     
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  15. Nucleus

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    That’s addiction for you. It is indeed a mental illness
     
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  16. Psalm27:1my light

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    Unfortunately, I’ve since learned that it’s not uncommon at all for men to prefer porn. The dopamine that floods your brain cannot be reproduced by a mere wife. Porn is not about sex so much as it’s about escape. Naturally, men may in the past have had slightly higher libidos, but porn has hijacked the natural drive and desire and it’s everywhere in our society.
     
  17. fg4795

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    We have a say
    "Il pane a chi non ha i denti, I denti a chi non ha il pane"
    (Bread to the ones withouth teeth, teeth to the ones without bread")
    It means that we're human, we never satisfied, if you start a relationship with a woman willing to have sex even more times per day every day, you will end up to call her *****,to say that women can't satisfy, and will envy the ones who have a wife with low sex-drive.
    If you start a relationship with a woman that want to have sex only 1 time per month even if she's like 20, then you will envy the one with the willing woman.
    We will never agree on this. We all judge from our experience :)
     
  18. palindromo

    palindromo Fapstronaut

    Exactly. Thank you i didn't know how to express this thought.

    You have my understanding and my support. I understand, I was with a girlfriend who had less sexual desire than me .
    However when she wanted me i always satisfied her, although I didn't always want to. I never told her . Communication is essential in couples...
     
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  19. I agree.

    Even when I was actively in my porn addiction, I thought this. By looking at porn and masturbating excessively I was depriving my partner of so much! Not only was I not sexually virulent for her, I also squandered time, money and mental energy on porn. And when I was with her, I was often thinking about porn and fantasies. :oops:

    I have never cheated on a girlfriend with another woman in real life, and a few of my girlfriends have cheated on me with other men. All in all, I think what I did with porn and masturbation was far worse than what was done to me (or was it more because of me?)

    I'll say it. I preferred porn to actual sex. I wanted both, but it was clear to me years ago that if I had to choose one or the other, I would have chosen PMO. And . . . in effect, I did choose porn. Plenty of women find me very attractive yet, despite that and a tremendous amount of time on online dating sites, I have been single for most of the last 15 years.
     
  20. MJ93

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    I completely agree. Women should NOT accept their guys watching porn, as it's a huge turn off for them.

    Look at what happened to my relationship. I have made that terrible mistake of choosing PMO over my girlfriend by accident, and she left me and blocked me for that as she has no tolerance for it. I have confessed to her about my battle against it. And since the break up, I had to face the consequence, and I had to punish myself for it. Never again will I go back to PMO.

     
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