Would like a girlfriend so bad, help me

I think its not that getting a girl will make you a real man, but it can make you a more complete man.
because then you realize it has nothing to you as a man - it can help you grow, and you need to experience this to learn many aspects of being a man.
thats about it.

so its a stepping stone, like a building block. a learning experience.
once you do this several times, hopefully you learn more about women and mostly YOURSELF and find your true purpose as a man.
 
Rev2.0 said:
Man I feel your pain. I spent (actually wasted) all of my 20s in the exact same place you are, except I wasn't even doing NoFap #1 because it didn't exist at the time and #2 I literally had no idea how much my PMOing was sabotaging me with women.

I'm in my 50s now but when I look back, knowing what I know now, there were so many women I was in a position to approach... smart, beautiful, well grounded women... and some who approached me... and nothing happened with any of them because I was such a loser from PMO. Female friends would offer to set me up and I'd say, nah I'm good. My sister set me up with a smoking hot Swedish redhead and I completely botched that the first night and never saw her again. I would get dates with women and then cancel at the last minute with some chickenshit excuse because I was afraid it wouldn't go well. Man, I wasn't even putting myself in the game, how the hell could I ever expect to win?

The advice of others here is spot on. Quit obsessing about this "lack" in your life. That comes off as neediness and causes you to act too accommodating towards women, which they hate. Yes, work on your career. Yes, find or develop a hobby. Yes, get your diet on point and find an exercise regimen that works for you. But don't do ANY of this to get a girlfriend. Do it for you. The right one(s) will notice at the right time, and if you've kept yourself straight on Nofap your natural Male instincts and energy will take it from there.
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Thank you for the wisdom.
 
Rev2.0 said:
Man I feel your pain. I spent (actually wasted) all of my 20s in the exact same place you are, except I wasn't even doing NoFap #1 because it didn't exist at the time and #2 I literally had no idea how much my PMOing was sabotaging me with women.

I'm in my 50s now but when I look back, knowing what I know now, there were so many women I was in a position to approach... smart, beautiful, well grounded women... and some who approached me... and nothing happened with any of them because I was such a loser from PMO. Female friends would offer to set me up and I'd say, nah I'm good. My sister set me up with a smoking hot Swedish redhead and I completely botched that the first night and never saw her again. I would get dates with women and then cancel at the last minute with some chickenshit excuse because I was afraid it wouldn't go well. Man, I wasn't even putting myself in the game, how the hell could I ever expect to win?

The advice of others here is spot on. Quit obsessing about this "lack" in your life. That comes off as neediness and causes you to act too accommodating towards women, which they hate. Yes, work on your career. Yes, find or develop a hobby. Yes, get your diet on point and find an exercise regimen that works for you. But don't do ANY of this to get a girlfriend. Do it for you. The right one(s) will notice at the right time, and if you've kept yourself straight on Nofap your natural Male instincts and energy will take it from there.
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I'd argue it still isn't too late. I mean, I'm 28 and I never had a girlfriend before. I'm not really in a rush to date though, to be honest. Though admittedly, I struggled with getting women interested in me when I was younger. I guess I now realize that I don't really need to try and win women over the way I used to. There's more to life than girls. A friend of mine once offered to set me up on a date with this one girl, who I decided just wasn't right for me, so I respectfully declined.

I guess the point here is that I just don't think too much about it. I'm not worried about it in the slightest now, and everything is fine. It's better than getting frustrated over it and turning into an angry incel (I'd rather not do that.).
 
ilcec said:
After over 200 days on Nofap, I can't handle it anymore. I want a girlfriend, someone to hang out with. Without a girl, it is worse than I expected. I know that there is a quarantine right now, but I don't know if I will ever found my woman. I am trying so hard to regain my masculinity, to stop watching porn, trying to gain all those benefits that will make me a real man, a perfect man for a woman, but I still don't know how to find one. I am 17 years old and never had a girlfriend. What should I do?
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Snap out of it! Get your ass to the gym.
 
Rev2.0 said:
Man I feel your pain. I spent (actually wasted) all of my 20s in the exact same place you are, except I wasn't even doing NoFap #1 because it didn't exist at the time and #2 I literally had no idea how much my PMOing was sabotaging me with women.

I'm in my 50s now but when I look back, knowing what I know now, there were so many women I was in a position to approach... smart, beautiful, well grounded women... and some who approached me... and nothing happened with any of them because I was such a loser from PMO. Female friends would offer to set me up and I'd say, nah I'm good. My sister set me up with a smoking hot Swedish redhead and I completely botched that the first night and never saw her again. I would get dates with women and then cancel at the last minute with some chickenshit excuse because I was afraid it wouldn't go well. Man, I wasn't even putting myself in the game, how the hell could I ever expect to win?

The advice of others here is spot on. Quit obsessing about this "lack" in your life. That comes off as neediness and causes you to act too accommodating towards women, which they hate. Yes, work on your career. Yes, find or develop a hobby. Yes, get your diet on point and find an exercise regimen that works for you. But don't do ANY of this to get a girlfriend. Do it for you. The right one(s) will notice at the right time, and if you've kept yourself straight on Nofap your natural Male instincts and energy will take it from there.
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matt2k12 said:
fucking get your shit together dude. your a man. you act like a woman. women dont need a pussy. they already got one. so in terms of what to do, i recommend you to start focus on your life, goal, mission and purpose in life. your streak is awesome. dont break it.
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couldt agree more hahahaha. exactly what i was gonna say. women dont want a man who need her haha
 
Look man, I'm single and I'm proud of that. If you're not in a relationship with a female, now it's the time not to start that because most of females are succubus that has jezebel spirits inside of them and they're going to take your energy and you will feel miserable. Google search jezebel spirit succubus and you'll understand why. Sooner or later you'll change your mind. Peace.
 
Love is different. It's built with trust, confidence, getting closer, talking to each other etc etc. But not real quick ;)
 
more testosterone floating in you increases your chances of getting/maintaining a girl. when i was 17, even before then, i wanted a girl. i wanted wanted wanted, but never took the courage to start approaching women. nothing just happens. no man with a girl suddenly had her fall into his lap. sure some people have more courage than others by nature, but for some of us we need to focus on finding the courage within. its not going to happen by jerking off your natural hormones away.

think about everytime you want to masturbate to porn, how aggressive you might be, how you may even show dominance in front of a pc screen (we all been here). that same vigor is inside you and instead of wasting it on stupid self pleasuring videos you should be utilizing it on women ready to pleasure u. remember women find testosterone very seductive so the more of that floating inside you, the better chances you have of getting a gf. just break the habit, youll be fine I promise.
 
ahighertruth said:
more testosterone floating in you increases your chances of getting/maintaining a girl. when i was 17, even before then, i wanted a girl. i wanted wanted wanted, but never took the courage to start approaching women. nothing just happens. no man with a girl suddenly had her fall into his lap. sure some people have more courage than others by nature, but for some of us we need to focus on finding the courage within. its not going to happen by jerking off your natural hormones away.

think about everytime you want to masturbate to porn, how aggressive you might be, how you may even show dominance in front of a pc screen (we all been here). that same vigor is inside you and instead of wasting it on stupid self pleasuring videos you should be utilizing it on women ready to pleasure u. remember women find testosterone very seductive so the more of that floating inside you, the better chances you have of getting a gf. just break the habit, youll be fine I promise.
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No offence but you sound like the blind trying to lead other blind :P
 
Johnson12345 said:
No offence but you sound like the blind trying to lead other blind :p
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haha maybe but i am really only helping based on what ive seen, heard, and realized in the past. if theres something you don't agree with please feel free to tell me otherwise, infact i would hope you did because it would challenge my thought process.
 
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