To save yourself from being down mentally : 1st) You have to track your feeling down mood to the thought(s) that have caused it 2nd)Move your attention on the opposite thought and keep it there for as long as you need to become at peace and hopeful. e.g. If you feel lonely think about yourself being in the company you enjoy being at, then make a plan to see it done and do something,take at least a first step to make your faith alive!
I am the same boat brother, yesterday I did 2 hours workout before bed and mostly sleepless night-10 hours in bed but attention is quite jumpy and comprehension took a turn for the worse too. Coupled with some ?cold? symptoms so I had to take aspirin at 1am....Although it wasn't always like this, I guess it's our stage of recovery that influences what strain we can harmlessly endure without consequences to our health.(maybe it's a good idea to try and repeat it at 90 and at 150 days to see if the effect of workout before bed stays the same?) I think it's a good idea to be moderately active through the day, solve problems in life worrying you, find the right diet(including timing and amount of meals) and make peace with people in your life( it is a good idea to say a prayer too) Hope this will be helpful to you.
Day 2 post vasectomy I did 2hrs of dancing, I rode my motorcycle. No discomfort. I'm sitting no problem. Almost feeling completely normal.
Day 14! Today is a new chanllage,I almost reach my goal to be a hobbit and start the journey to destroy the PMO ring.
Good for you bro!, and how did you make the desition to do the vasectomy process? Do you have family? or you don't want childrens never? I'm thinking about to do it for me too.
a liitle refresher from the past year on meditation +: ************ ...and this is plus for those lost, as we all are :
No kids, the decision came after I met many girls. Analysed womens nature. I discussed it with my father. I think love perfect romantic love can't exist. Women are too mundane to achieve a mutual spiritual path with me. Having a child is not my dream. I've only considered it because women, most of them really want kids. Also I don't know if my kids will turn out a pain in the butt no matter how I raise them. It is a bit of luck or the lack of it. So seeing the lack of spiritual depth of women, the experiences my dad had all his life in the search of love and never found it. The hundreds of girls I've met, the other many analysis I made of couples and how that wasn't so great. Also my obsession with self improvement, job and being happy and independent. Then I realiced I need no kids or wife, I'm perfectly happy as I am now.
Have you tried the 4-7-8 Breathing, (I've just read about it a couple of minutes earlier lol), it helps with sleep as much as "nuclear bomb solution" apparently. I never tried it personally yet. ou can practice 4-7-8 breathing anywhere and at any time. When you're first learning, try to practice at least twice a day, but you can do it as often as you want. Only do it for four cycles in a row in the beginning. After you get used to it, you can work up to eight cycles. You may feel lightheaded at first, but this will pass. Find a comfortable place to sit with your back straight. Place your tongue against the back of your top teeth and keep it there. Exhale completely through your mouth around your tongue, making a whoosh sound. Purse your lips if it helps. Close your lips and inhale through your nose for a count of four. Hold your breath for a count of seven. Exhale completely through your mouth making a whoosh sound for a count of eight. This completes one cycle. Repeat for three more cycles. Do 4-7-8 breathing anytime you feel stressed. It will become more powerful as you use it. Practice doing it before you respond to an upsetting situation and whenever you're having trouble getting to sleep.
Checking in friends - delighted to report that I'm only 1 day from Hobbiton Some faint urges during menial domestic tasks today which I was able to nip in the bud reminding myself that I had a reward waiting for me so no need to run I committed to appending a FASTER/ BLASSTED trigger plan to the trigger list above, so here I go. I am a bit run down so forgive me just typing as the stuff comes into my mind - I'll refine it at a later date... F - forgetting priorities bored Once I am conscious of this I will check if I need rest and if so I will take it, if not I will get busy on tasks but setting myself low bar tasks so as to not feel overwhelmed A - Anxiety - Loneliness - Fantasy I have started staying with reality more, not running from its taste, remind myself this is where I want to be, this is where it is at, real satisfaction/ freedom can only be found in reality. Similar to @Redemptionisrequired 's post above about facing the underlying issues, this stage is a call / a trigger to embrace, rather than run from, the pain S - Speeding Up -Stressing Caught myself doing this this week - When I am in this state the last thing I want to do is slow down, but this is what I have been doing, accepting wherever I am, and slowing down, realising it is not as bad as my mind is telling me, it is just an ingrained habit This is a big cue to turn and face the thing that is stressing me. If it is too big, then break into bitesized chunks and build in rewards (need to revisit posts on rewards) T - Ticked OFF Went straight to this phase this weekend when some deep wounds opened related to my mother's self destructive streak and how this causes so much suffering to those that love her I needed to just rest and be very gentle with myself and remind myself that the urges are here because of a desire to escape this most fundamental reality - the psychological harm suffered by the self destruction of those we love - this cannot be medicated with anger only acceptance. Also it is a cue to take a look in the mirror I guess, and see all who I have harmed throughout my own life through my own life and the various bad habits I had, be they physical like drinking, psychological like narcissism, omission like work avoidance, etc.. E - Exhausted - self doubting Stop stop stop - rest -take time off - just drop what it is I think is so important (it ain't) R - Relapse - depressed Do not Binge - get back on the saddle asap - P creates the hole that it claims to fill
20 - Hobbit, finally reached that Bree and certainly need to get some good nonalcoholic Ale! On top of that it was very productive, active and full of fun Day, even spontaneously meditated at some point - 10/10. —Side Quests— Workout - Check ColdShower - Check HealthyDiet - Check Learning - Check SideProject - Check NoAlcohol - Check NoYoutube - Check
Day 1 - Orc I am 2 days free from P and 1 day free from MO. I relapsed after half a month which really sucks, and I have not been on the forums in a few days. I guess I felt defeated after my relapse. I wrote for about two hours last night, though I did not accomplish my other goals, and then I played my switch until 12:30AM. I watched YouTube until 2AM or so, though I fell asleep long before then and woke up to turn it off and go back to sleep. I then slept until 2pm today. Definitely not ideal of course, but I intend to accomplish more of my goals tonight and then get to bed early and up by 6:15AM tomorrow morning so that I can dance, eat breakfast, and head to school by 7:15AM. I will then work on homework and then go to class at 9:30AM. I think my relapse was a blessing in disguise though. I had fallen behind on my life goals, and now I can get back on top of them. It does suck that I could not have better engaged with them on my own, without falling down, but as some have said previously in this challenge, we don't relapse for no reason. There is always a variety of steps that lead to it. Those include not meeting our healthy living goals and then of course failing to engage with our healthy coping skills in the hours leading up to PMO. So I am on Day 1 and starting over. Best, Mathman1994
Day 9 Brilliant day at church today, great to spend time amongst my friends and working alongside some very talented people, makes me really grateful for the vocation God has called me to. Found myself able to snap out of unhealthy thoughts within split seconds today - I hope I can continue this as I continue my journey with prayer and worship.
Thank you a lot! I'll try to do first legs then arms and finally core next time! And I don't know that guy so I'll search him.later! Don't think I need gradually increasing exposure or time because I showered 10 min in day 2 lol. I think it was easy for me because it's hot in my country. I hope I can still shower like I'm doing in winter lol
Day 122.. hard day. God loves us all! Gonna make exercise to feel better and reduce probabilities of falling
Thank you my friends, I am glad you find my reflections helpful. @EpsilonDelta Yes, you are right. It is very difficult to uncover the roots of addiction. With deep self-reflection and analysis, you will find it my friend and it does take time. We must be patient with ourselves, we've been deeply addicted for a long time, there might be things that are buried deep within the past. Stay the course and you will uncover the "why's".