Post published by savedandhealing
Hi, everyone. I need your help and advice as I progress down the road of recovery. I am 28 and have been married for about 5 years, I have struggled with porn addiction and have cheated on a few occasions in emotionless one time encounters. These were basically anonymous encounters that did not involve vaginal sex, once a bj and the other few times a hj (cheating none the less). As I have matured I’m realizing that I’m living for so much more and no longer want to be burdened by this guilt and sorrow. Recently I prayed and asked for god to save and forgive me of my sins. I have been working hard to beat this addiction and read scripture. I read various things about if I should tell my wife or not. I never plan on going down this road again and the acts were emotionless and I believe fueled by the issues I was having with porn. I’m working hard on my marriage, but I still wonder if I should tell her. I’m not sure of the benefit. What would you all recommend, I read so many various opinions on whether to tell or not. I truly believe God has worked in my life and made me a changed man. I plan on working hard to keep this up, just not sure if I should leave this in the past. I read that I am freed from my past sins and to not be burdened by them. What is your all’s opinions? Thank you
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cornhusker1
It may be a very hard truth to follow, but we are told to confess our sins to others as well so they can help us along life
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The Wrestler
@savedandhealing You're still hiding it. Everything that is hidden will be brought to light.
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savedandhealing
I have confessed these sins to God and he has banished them. They have been forgotten. Is this not correct?
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savedandhealing
I know it to be true, but I also now it as in the past and forgiven.
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The Wrestler
So I can murder someone and hide the body, but if I confess it to God everything's cool, right?
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The Wrestler
You're asking a very legalistic question - you're asking "how much can I get away with?" but not "How can I honour my wife?"
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savedandhealing
You make a valid point, but I also see the reason for leaving it be. Honestly this is very overwhelming and confusing.
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savedandhealing
I will need to continue to strengthen my relationship with God, which I believe in turn strengthens my relationship with my wife. I’ll pray and reflect on it.
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savedandhealing
I do believe honoring my wife is leaving it in the past though and moving forward as a couple.
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This is a very difficult issue. From experience I can say keeping things from a spouse is extremely damaging to a relationship. You may push it to the back of your mind but it affects how you treat them.