I am practicing nofap for 8 months.Since I am single, I am struggling to get sex out of my mind. I know these nasty thoughts should not be there in my mind. In the past 3 days, I was able to control my porn addiction till this sexual thought of spanking a girl during sex came. I tried hard to not to think about this, but at last I relapsed. If anyone knows how to solve this problem, please do tell me.
By fighting the negative thoughts you actually give them more energy because you focus on them. You are the judge, jury and executioner of your thoughts, for the simple reason that they originate from your mind. So why not treat them as such? Acknowledge that a sexual thought has hit your mind, accept it, and then let it go. Send it on its merry way. You get to decide the quality of the thoughts that occupy your mind and if it does not serve the purpose you want it to, let it go and stop dwelling on it. It can be tough at first, but with discipline and focus things will start to get easier. For now you will have to accept that your brain is likely still wired to porn. It might take a little longer for the brain to unwire from your addiction and that's ok. However the point to make is; when we drive a car, we don't leave the wheel unattended? When we walk a dog we don't allow the dog to lead the walk? There has to be a conscious effort to manage the thoughts that leave and enter our minds. We can't stop the sexual thoughts from knocking the door, but we can refuse them entry and send them on their way.
I also have a big problem about scenes that I saw in the past keep coming in my mind, it's really tough. For me these thoughts stay for a few days and then it's all good, it's tough, we are in this together
Definitely tough but no doubt you are on the right track. It sounds like the subconscious is having a good clear out. Good luck