Looking for a good week. Refocused some urges yesterday by noticing the real women in the real world and appreciating them. Not some photoshopped nonsense
oh yeah, that definitely happens! The weirdest thing is when You start ejaculating during a non-sexual dream... I remember having wet dreams about jumping in mud and boarding a bus... I guess your body gets used to your commitment to avoid PM and adjusts the dream content.
@mrguy - I will add you to the member ranking tonight. @sjindjin - I have added you to the waiting list, but you will need to read the rules at the beginning of the thread and activate your counter before you can join. @bama_lost - You have been added to the waiting list.
Day 99 - as I approach 100 days which is quite a milestone given my state 6 months ago, I am thankful for everything I've learned on this site and for the fellowship that has supported my battle with PMO addiction. There are plenty of struggles still, less to do with nofap and more to do with my overall direction in life. It seems that the distraction of PMO didn't allow me much time to focus on meaningful issues. And without the constant guilt and shame of hiding my PMO habit, my mind and soul are free to pursue more sincere and thoughtful endeavors.
Great to hear that, keep up the good work! I like your attitude, especially that part "There are plenty of struggles still, less to do with nofap and more to do with my overall direction in life. It seems that the distraction of PMO didn't allow me much time to focus on meaningful issues." Keep up the good work..
@artifact Thanks, updated my counter and happy to wait. Day 3 today and plain sailing so far, but expecting some cravings soon. Very helpful to be able to check in daily here.
I had an odd non-sexual dream last night, which involved a co-worker from long ago. I never had any feelings for her but I woke up feeling a strange longing towards something I cannot express. It is nostalgia without an object... it feels like an echo from another life. It doesn’t not tempt me to M, but I am thinking of M as a distraction. I won’t, not today, distract myself. Does anyone else know what I am talking about?
Thanks. I'm here. When I relapse hard I tend not to come in. It's like I want to get on track a little first. I know that's not a good strategy though.
It's been very helpful to read the posts here, and it made me think today about porn in my life from 16 to here, and am pretty ashamed of myself over how it makes me sneak around my partner, how it directs my sexdrive away from her, and how I've had a total lack of control for all these years (meaning I at many times have wanted to stop doing it, but really only ever stopped once for a month). I think of myself as having excellent self-control, and that is true in some senses, but clearly 0% in this case. Bit of a mindfuck. Funny how you can push those thoughts away and not examine your actions to closely for so long though. Well, good to be a bit more grounded, and all useful fuel to make a change.
@sjindjin and @bama_lost - You have been added to the member ranking. Welcome to the group and good luck in your nofap journey!
I overcame some severe sexual frustration with rather intense exercise. Certainly better for me than PMO. I even introduced myself to a girl in the gym. It was only a “Hello. I’m (name here), What’s your name?” I am proud of myself. For a soon to be 35 year old guy with little experience with women and unfounded fear of them this was a big step last night.
Hi everyone I hope this time so special of the year you can get stronger and firm on your conviction to quit PMO. I personally believe that hope for a change and the strength we need day by day, can be born on ever heart of us these days. I am very thankful to this group, the first of two I've joined of here on nofap, because your advices, thoughts, struggles, falls and victories have helped me to make it here one day at a time. Thanks to @artifact for all your work and help and to everyone here. Victory is possible, to live free is possible. Merry CHRISTmas to all of you and God bless you