Essentially yes, your GF sending you nudes is no different to you viewing porn and naked images of women- if you find is sexually arousing and she is sending them to you when you are alone that that will likely be very, very triggering. If you are alone and your GF sends you nudes and you become aroused you are then more likely to follow it up by viewing porn which could lead to relapse. PMO is very hard when you have a partner- but yes, if you want to reboot you should avoid anything that is sexually stimulating while you are alone.
Actually sexual activity with his GF is one thing- I think sending him nudes while alone is not conducive to him PMOing successfully. If a naked woman arouses him- GF or not- it will likely be triggering.
It's your girlfriend so I wouldn't consider it as relapse. I would be happy if I would had a girlfriend that send me nudes. It may eventully lead to arousal and PMO so it's up to you to decide.
I'm not missing that point at all. Disagreeing with you does not mean I have failed to understand that point. I am aware it's his GF and the amount of love and trust she has for him is great but how does that help him not to relapse? All I am saying is if he finds those pictures arousing- which one assumes he does- then it's a potential trigger- it could potentially lead to him masturbating to a naked image on his phone (Gf or not) while alone- which is surely counterproductive? If the picture arouses him- it also heightens the temptation to masturbate to porn- that is all I am saying. It's not about the ethics of her being his GF- if he feels he can handle those nude images then good for him- However he asked for advice and I'm pointing the potential dangers. If he wants to be sexual with his GF in person- I can understand that, but why make it harder for himself (no pun intended) while he is alone?
The definition of porn: the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement Sorry, but that's the definition. It doesn't matter whether the subject is a stranger or someone you know as long you're viewing sexually arousing images.
I don't think this is an answer you're going to be able to get from anybody but yourself. Everybody on here has different problems and is trying to stop different behaviors. If receiving nudes from your girlfriend triggers something in your brain that makes you want to go spend a bunch of time compulsively looking at porn or trying to get other girls to send you pictures or doing any other behavior that you would rather not do, then maybe you should consider not getting those pictures. Personally, my main goal in this program is getting control over my life and not giving into addictions and compulsive behaviors. For me, that doesn't mean going into monk mode and not being intimate with my wife and not ever touching myself, because I don't think that's a realistic way of life. Others disagree and if that works for them, then great. Ultimately you need to forget out what you want, figure out whats stopping you from getting to that place, and then figure out what you can do to get you there.
Exactly. This is what we make of it. You set your own rules. If part of this means your girlfriend can no longer show her affection to you, show that she cares and enjoys it when you find her sexy, then what's the point? One of the big reasons to stop PM is to help and strengthen your relationship. If it's doing the opposite and making you reject your girlfriend, that's counter productive in my opinion. I don't think it counts, and I think it's part of a loving, sexual relationship with someone you care about.
No one is saying he should reject his GF- yes stopping PMO is to strengthen your bond with your sexual partner in real life and give you a more fulfilling experience etc His GF can show she cares in many ways and they can certainly have sex together. But sending him pornographic images of herself that he will more than likely fap too and then in the worst case move onto other porn is not helpful. At the end of the day every person and couple decide what is right for them- but to tell him that looking at naked pictures of women on his phone is a good way for him to continue PMOing just doesn't make sense- it doesn't matter that it's his GF- it's triggering.
I agree it's up to him to judge what he can and can't control. Personally if my girlfriend sends me pictures of her naked, I'm going to be looking forward to HER, not run off and go fap. That makes no sense to me. It will get me excited to see her, as it's intended to do. If you're choosing porn over your significant other's sexual advances, then it's not just the pictures that are the issues in your relationship.
The thing with pics is that you fill in the gaps with your imagination. This kind of fantasizing pumps up the dopamine response, which will make resetting more difficult.
I would not consider it as porn just don't fap/edge to the pictures i would not let NoFap hurt my relationship.
My dude. I feel the same way. Tailoring my approach to my needs/issues; no need to be overly restrictive (in my opinion), or try to copy someone else’s approach just because. In the end, we’re just figuring it out as we go. Cheers
My guy. What is the purpose of that hyperlink? Please, remove it. I thought it would be some sort of post, article or graph explaining your point. That is P. In a site where we aim to abstain from P.
Hey dude, I know it's probably been a wrong time, congrats on beating porn, I hope to get to your level! Thanks for being one of the people showing the rest of us that there's hope!
if your girl is in the same room with you nude an your nude thats the only time its ideal other then that your throwing your essence away viewing such things
