Hi, i am new here on this site and pretty excited about this. I have no idea how 90 days without any O should be possible, but i will give it a try sometimes. Right now i started with the 7 days challenge and will see, how it will work. In relation to the problematic sexual behavior: I am 42 years old. Since i was 17 i was costumer of several prostitutes. In the beginning a had bad feelings about it, but today for me this feels normal - i am enjoying it, even if i know it is wrong. There is no doubt: i am addicted - not to porn at all, but to prostitution. The main fokus of this site is porn addiction. I am thinking, some kind of therapy would be a good thing. Despite of that my doubt is, if the reboot will help me getting off this or at least get better to control it. I am aware of that the reason for this addiction needs some action. Just to clarify: i am enjoying porn once in a while, but i am not even close to addicted to it. I am not sure if i am addicted to masturbation, but i am sure i am addicted to consuming prostitutes. Some ideas about if the reboot would help me?
It is exactly the same mechanism standing behind your behavior. Start with the simple question - why do you need to use escort? Do you really need it? Are you a better or happier person because of having 'commercial' sex?
Your like me in a way. Escorts were my thing. Yes I would look at some porn to much but the escorts was the big one. I'm completely done with it. Not EVER going back. The intimacy isn't there for me. I know how fun it is. But with all the odds it isn't worth it. If you are capable of meeting a lady as a girlfriend or FWB or whatever you would have it but are just resorting to escorts because it is easier or addicted, you don't need to be seeing them. If you are not a bad looking guy or handicapped etc, you don't need to see them. Your self esteem will grow when you do stop.
Escorts were my weakness mostly aswell, my main goal here on NoFap is to stop this once and for all, it is in the same logic as porn, the problem is that it is way more expensive, and although it may be pleasurable, I always left dissapointed with myself because I was being weak and seeking a quick pleasure instead of trying harder to change my life. Good luck on your journey, friend.
I relapsed two weeks ago to a prostitute. I didn’t have sex or anything, but just the fact that I went to one is killing me. I think I’m scarred forever from this experience. The guilt and shame are just too much for me
Thank you - my hope is, that this concept will help me out of this. It is my 2. day and i am already having a hard time though..
I actually have no problems meeting women for a relationship or just sex. I had. I suffered of social anxiety untill i was 30, which i think is the main reason for this (not that i don't see the responsibility with myself though). The first step for me is to do the NO MPO thing for a week or even longer. Never tried that before and right now i don't know if it is possible. And my hope is, that it will change something inside me. Thank you for your answer.
Thank you very much! I know that feel, the dissapointment with myself. But i stopped beeing dissapointed. Somehow i tried to accept that i am doing this, so i can live with my self. It worked pretty well, to be honest.. But i wanna stop, because it is wrong and because i want to get out of the financial trouble.
I began to have this problem after I began NoFap, already saw two escorts in less than a month and I almost go to see a prostitute today. My problem with porn was not that strong but I realized that i'm a sex addict so getting into escorts will probably destroy me in the long run... I'm aiming my streak to not see porn and.not go to a prostitute.
My income is good, but i am not rich. In my country the average price would be round about 150 dollars. Depends on what nationality the girl has. The price is for 30 minutes.
So you are saying, the NoFap is part of the problem for you, or do i read your text wrong? I hope to achieve more selfdiscipline and focus on other things then sex. I actually feel like it starts already. I didn't touch my Tinder very much since i started yesterday, which also was kind of obsessive before..
There were so many times that I could have stopped myself. I had kept reminding myself that it was a bad idea. But then the urge took hold of me, I couldn’t think of a single argument. I was like a zombie. Why did this happen?
Well it is a very irrational proces. I deal with the same thing. I know all the answers, but it is difficult to change it. Don't judge yourself, but look forward. I do this. We can not change the past, but we can change how we behave now. I am trying to do this with the No PMO now. Maybe it is the way forward. We are sitting in the same boat (as we say here, i don't know if people are sitting in boats somewhere else
From your experience, i know i am not alone. But all I can do now is to change myself for the better. You’re right, but I need to figure out why I let this control me. Maybe I lack self control. I didn’t even at that point think of going on NoFap and asking for help. It’s like i was on auto-pilot mode or something else was controlling my actions.