Is quitting it the most difficult thing ever !?

I find it is harder than say a nicotine addiction or even a drug addiction because PMO relies on our basal instinct for procreation and sex. The urges are way worse when it comes to being a compulsion and it takes over our daily life, such as skipping study, work and other daily activities.

 

Sounds like immense pressure nirav, you can do it though.

Maybe if you can't focus on your studies it would help to take a little breather, get some fresh air, walk around the block? Have a healthy snack break or make some tea?
I study in my own way. I have hobbies, chores and periodically texting family and friends during the day. Night time I do my online reading with a to go mug of tea, some trail mix and chill music..I must be gettin' old! It helps though.

 

This addiction is definitely worse than drug addiction because the ease of access. Heroin and cocaine are expensive drugs. You need to get enough money and you need to find available drug dealer. Imagine what would happen if you could get a gram of heroin for free every time you reach to your pocket. This is porn. All you need is a smartphone or tablet or a computer and just few clicks. And what about mainstream society? They tell you that heroin is horrible and you must stay away from it. But the same society tells you that porn is good, masturbation is good and the people who refuse to watch porn and masturbate are labeled as “white supremacists”, “antisenites” etc. So, unlike drug addicts who get praised for quitting, you become a deplorable for improving your mental and physical health.

 

for me it was actually super easy.

 

It's harder if you don't actually have any relationships, if you have normal healthy relationships sex is much more than what you get from porn . When you watch porn all the time and don't have any relationships you lose all that ,and porn is the closest thing to feeling any sort of satisfaction in a world of shit, men are hardwired to be this way , and the higher your testosterone level the stronger and more frequent the urges . Hit the gym , and focus on life, if you have good relationships it's easier

 

Well the problem is that quitting this addiction is the only thing you're thinking about. You're trying too hard.

Trying to quit/ remove something while constantly thinking about is isn't going to connect. Whatever you try.

The magic you're talking about is the addiction. Not you. Thats how addiction works.

Go offline. Give yourself time. Hold on for 1 second when the urge strikes. Then 2 seconds and begin question your next move. You can do this!

 

Hard, but possible.

 

Well there you go. You've already learn to cut down. Keep doing what you're doing and that'll probably work out.

 

just keep trying you got this one

 

For some people it is. Some people find it the most challenging thing they ever do. And some people never manage to break free.

It is mainly a psychological addiction, although there are some physical aspects too. So it is very different from drug addiction (although we often make that comparison here).

I would draw a parallel with food addiction - it's 'natural' to desire food and of course we need to eat to survive. But some people - quite a lot of people esp in West Europe/America - are killing themselves by overeating. They need to be constantly vigilant about what they eat, or they will eat themselves to death. They're normal, healthy desire for food has warped into something excessive and dangerous, and they need to control it in order to maintain a healthy and normal life - which most of us take for granted.

It's like that for us with sex. Except (most of us) are not even having proper sex, but just pretending with a screen and with ourselves. our normal sexual impulse, which should be inspiring us to pursue women and interact with the world and better ourselves, is instead forcing us to stay in, ignore women, and neglect our personal development. And we are not even getting proper sex out of it!

 

I relate to your story...being a student too. Studying gets hard coz you can read for hours and not even understand or remember what you have been reading. Its even making me feel like im becoming dummer. I cant properly express myself coz my thoughts are kinda shifty and confused. Like i even told myself today that i want to stop but am not really ready. Coz i keep going back. But nothing really just happens bro, you have to get it done. You wanna pass the exams you got to study. Same as this,if you want to stop make yourselp stop.
Btw this is also a message to me.