Hi guys, NEED YOUR ADVICE PLEASE - kinda worried/lost/hopeless here (yea I overthink stuff)

Hi guys, Thanks for coming by, I really need some help, maybe some words of advice if You have any or just a push in my back that it'll be fine the way i'll manage it (described below) Hope You can read through it, I wish You a great life, love You <3

Im 20, Im healthy, fit, have a nice diet, exercise a lot, generally not in a bad place

But I have some erection problems, I was examined by doc, physically Im fine, T levels 970 ng/dl, everything should be fine, so he sent me to psychiatrist, who told me that Im generally anxious and stressed and that may be the case - Im starting therapy in 2 weeks

2 Weeks ago I tried having sex for the 1st time, did no thappen, I trust this girl a lot, she is extremaly supportive, I told her everything (therapy etc), We tried a couple of times more, I was able to penetrate but it quickly got soft or like semi, not as hard as it should, generally it wasnt good sex

It goes like this:

We start cuddling etc - I feel it's hard and good - we go further - I feel like a semi instead and either lose it quickly or it stays semi erection and gets weaker over time, when she gets me off its better tho

Then we cuddle again and again feel bigger movement but I also get worried and anxious about it. Basically the only thing that pops into my mind is:

"WILL IT BE HARD THIS TIME?"
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And after few trials and fails per night Im not even able to move it Im so nervous... We've had 3 nights together, 1st wasn't able to penetrate and the other 2 I was able but yea, semi erection or weakening quickly - slight progress, but its far from enough

I've had some streaks longer/shorter since January this year (2 weeks/30days/75 the most) of no PMO and then eventually MO'ed by myself to thoughts (nothing related to P, about girls I know in really soft scenarios of kissing cuddling etc). When I was younger I used to do that almost everyday, usually 2-3 times a day, and stopped in January. I don't have urges, Im fine with abstaining, never came back to P and dont miss it at all, so i kinda feel like it's ok regarding that.

I've started suplementing cytruline and before I used tadalafil (yea with his girl as well, did no help i guess), now i also got sildenafil (all those things recommended by doctors) and started Wim Hof's method to manage stress and my anxiety, which I wasn't really aware of.

We won't see each other for 3 weaks or sth, I decided not to MO as well (its easy for me, im fine with abstaining) so when we try again I'll be like 20-30 days without MO (I know it's not long, but i've had some streaks before, so I belive it was kinda benefitial in some way) and year without P

MY QUESTION IS:

Do You guys think that I should keep trying to have sex with her and have as much closeness as posibble to REWIRE? Do You think that all those things combined together (rewiring/the fact that she is really close to me and I care about her and she cares about me/ my healthy lifestyle/ therapy/ meds/ the fact that I've been off porn for almost a year now)
Are the way to go?

IS IT A PATH TO A HEALTHY SEXUAL RELATION WITH A GIRL I LOVE?


If You have some additional questions feel free to ask me, Im willing to do/say anything to make it work


Thank You all for reading and replying and trying to help, Im kinda lost in my head and feel worried and sometimes hopeless... Love You guys

 

Hi guys, NEED YOUR ADVICE PLEASE - kinda worried/lost/hopeless here (yea I overthink stuff)

Hi guys, Thanks for coming by, I really need some help, maybe some words of advice if You have any or just a push in my back that it'll be fine the way i'll manage it (described below) Hope You can read through it, I wish You a great life, love You <3

Im 20, Im healthy, fit, have a nice diet, exercise a lot, generally not in a bad place

But I have some erection problems, I was examined by doc, physically Im fine, T levels 970 ng/dl, everything should be fine, so he sent me to psychiatrist, who told me that Im generally anxious and stressed and that may be the case - Im starting therapy in 2 weeks

Weeks ago I tried having sex for the 1st time, did no thappen, I trust this girl a lot, she is extremaly supportive, I told her everything (therapy etc), We tried a couple of times more, I was able to penetrate but it quickly got soft or like semi, not as hard as it should, generally it wasnt good sex

It goes like this:

We start cuddling etc - I feel it's hard and good - we go further - I feel like a semi instead and either lose it quickly or it stays semi erection and gets weaker over time, when she gets me off its better tho

Then we cuddle again and again feel bigger movement but I also get worried and anxious about it. Basically the only thing that pops into my mind is:


"WILL IT BE HARD THIS TIME?"
And after few trials and fails per night Im not even able to move it Im so nervous... We've had 3 nights together, 1st wasn't able to penetrate and the other 2 I was able but yea, semi erection or weakening quickly - slight progress, but its far from enough

I've had some streaks longer/shorter since January this year (2 weeks/30days/75 the most) of no PMO and then eventually MO'ed by myself to thoughts (nothing related to P, about girls I know in really soft scenarios of kissing cuddling etc). When I was younger I used to do that almost everyday, usually 2-3 times a day, and stopped in January. I don't have urges, Im fine with abstaining, never came back to P and dont miss it at all, so i kinda feel like it's ok regarding that.

I've started suplementing cytruline and before I used tadalafil (yea with his girl as well, did no help i guess), now i also got sildenafil (all those things recommended by doctors) and started Wim Hof's method to manage stress and my anxiety, which I wasn't really aware of.

We won't see each other for 3 weaks or sth, I decided not to MO as well (its easy for me, im fine with abstaining) so when we try again I'll be like 20-30 days without MO (I know it's not long, but i've had some streaks before, so I belive it was kinda benefitial in some way) and year without P

MY QUESTION IS:

Do You guys think that I should keep trying to have sex with her and have as much closeness as posibble to REWIRE? Do You think that all those things combined together (rewiring/the fact that she is really close to me and I care about her and she cares about me/ my healthy lifestyle/ therapy/ meds/ the fact that I've been off porn for almost a year now)
Are the way to go?

IS IT A PATH TO A HEALTHY SEXUAL RELATION WITH A GIRL I LOVE?


If You have some additional questions feel free to ask me, Im willing to do/say anything to make it work


Thank You all for reading and replying and trying to help, Im kinda lost in my head and feel worried and sometimes hopeless... Love You guys

 

Thank You for replying robbiehecht,

I'm starting a therapy on anxiety and stress related with relationships in January, I don't really know if I have or had PIED or just anxiety or both combined, maybe there are some people who can relate and maybe have some advice or just a simple "I've been there, it's possible to fix it all", who knows.

Wish You all the best

 

Thank You very much! I'll never come back to P, that's for sure, I just hope I'll be alright sooner or later

 

I'll take that advice seriously, thank You bro

 

About the girl i think honestly i wouldn't be having sex with her yet, if you really like her then take her to dates and so on without having sex, sometimes you never know if the person you with only wants you because of sex and doesn't care about you in reality.


Thanks for Your advice

About the girl, we've known each other for almost a year, know a lot of things about each other and we've been talking and hanging out a lot on daily basis since I guess march, and she said that it doesn't matter for her if I fix my problem in 1 month or 2 years - "I want to be with You regardless", and I trust her and belive her, thanks for warning tho, Good luck in everything

 

Hey, thanks for Your reply and advice, I have two questions:

1. Is there any research on massaging penis with olive oil?
2. During the exercise, does activation in butt cheeks suggest that I'm doing in correctly?

 

Sounds logical, thank You bro!

 

@OttarrTheVendelCrow Thank You very much for replying, I appriciate Your advice and kind words! Sometimes it's hard to belive that in the end- everything will be just fine, so Your words really mean a lot to me! I'll try my best, thank You, I wish You all the best bro!

 

Hi guys

I'm 14 days in, I will be seeing my girlfriend tomorrow or in to days and...

I ve just had a wet dream

Will it affect my ability to get and keep an erection with her anyhow? I wanted to abstain before i see her and now I'm afraid that these 14 days won't make a difference in case of hardness of my erection...What does it even mean that it happened? I remember having some wet dreams but i was 60 days in then, not 14