Would love to hear anyone's favoured techniques for abstaining and dealing with cravings and urges

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Daily morning cold showers, exercise, not staying at home alone, timetables to full my hours, praying, focusing on my goal, avoiding big amounts of sugar-chocolate, reading testimonies about how PA ruined lifes (from their perspective, and from their loved ones, usually GF or spouse), techniques to clear my mind out of thoughts. Limiting usage of social networks (specially Ig). When porn ads appear on my screen, i close as fast as i can, whitout indulging myself in a little "look". If i can't close rhem inmediately, i cover them with my own hand.
Informing about what porn is and its consequences also helps.
Reading about morality and theology about this subject also helps (im catholic). Jason Evert is fine for beginners, and christopher west is more technic and mature. They have talks in youtube too, if you prefer that.

 

Hmm well I would say mine are:
-Having a morning routine
-Following a programme (SAA 12 Steps Daily Tasks card)
-Calling others in a time of need
-Praying to a higher power (not god, I just believe my programme is my -higher power, something more than myself, and in praying it's another reminder of my recovery)
-Walking
-Exercise
-Drawing/painting
-Going to sit with my gf or family
-If anger at something or someone causes it, I wish them health, happiness and success so as not to hold onto the resentment
-Thinking of someone I can help

I have found some peace in these, I am only day 4 but since finding these I have only lapsed once since the end of January, which show they're not perfect but they at least help, but I also have rules on internet use, like I can't use it alone unless it's for my online college lesson and even then I have to be sat in the front room in view of people walking by.

 

The best way I found to deal with urges was to get up and leave what I'm doing, especially if I'm alone. When really bad urges come there's no use trying to fight them internally, so when they would get really bad I would first pray until the urges subside and if they don't I would go on a long bike ride to clear my mind. But whatever the case, my first line of defense would be prayer and after that, exhausting myself with really tiring exercise.

However, the best method I found is to just avoid being alone all together, because that's a plain invite to letting the mind wander to where you don't want it to..

 

Controling the senses
no TV, youtube, ig..
Eating very simple no candies or fancy dishes
Chaste look, not flirting unless it's for the real deal
Controling imagination, cold showers, exercise
And meditation

 

For me it’s a christian method, it’s praying the rosary.
It wash all craving and temptation for days

 

For my urges, meditation has been huge. Although I would say compared to before I joined the nofap community, it was much, much more difficult on my own.

- I find that smoking weed makes it more likely for me to give in
- Having a strong pact with yourself, since this really isn’t something to “ween” off of
- Focusing on responsibility vs pleasure
- Faith in something outside of ourselves

(From meditation):
- Knowing this is a shared experience, we aren’t alone on our journey
- Not identifying with the craving (ex. “I’m feeling x”), and instead looking at it objectively and letting it pass. Two key points are to not resist/anticipate it.
- Having larger than the self, altruistic motives

Hopes this helps, for me I have done well to overcome, but I still have challenges to face ahead. Take care man

 

As far as a mental exercise, sometimes I'll (non graphically) imagine myself relapsing and then, like always, wanting to slam my head against a wall wishing I could go back in time and stop myself from relapsing. Just as I'm at the worst peak of regret, I imagine everything getting all fuzzy and swirly and I'm transported back to the present to the moment before I relapsed. I'll then thank whatever mystic force sent me back in time and be happy I didn't relapse.

 

Do take a look at this thread where @IGY sets out his techniques: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/the-rebooting-toolbox-tips-and-tricks.236156/

I brain-dumped mine here: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/tips.188276/#post-1608563

 

The thing that i learned is, if yoy master to don't act on the urge, then eventually you will quit this addiction. It may take so much time but you must have patience in that process. Also you must have a higher anchor in your journey in the form of daily morning and evening prayer.

The first 4-20 times the urge will come in the form of your fetish. Then 20-23 urges will come with porn rationalisation ( the most difficult phase) then onwards you are free its your choice. An urge between 23-50 i call impulse urge, which is tge urge that fails the long nofap streakers. Its like a tsar bomb, giving you limited time to think. So just start by learning the mastery of urge killing.