About 20 days ago, I started my latest attempt on abstaining from porn and its going great so far. In the past months, my addiction started to become a real threat to the relationship with my current girlfriend of 9 months. I confessed everything to her and she is very supportive about it, which feels great. The addiction was so severe, that I even started sexchats with random girls on Omegle to recieve an even higher dopamine rush than from "standard" porn. I get that it was some sort of cheating and I still feel guilty about all that. The latest incident happened about 4 months ago and I confessed everything, but my gf wanted to stay, because our relationship is pretty awesome apart from my past with PMO. As you could imagine, the PMO problem slowly starts to fade and sometimes I already feel my brain reconnecting to its natural ways of functioning. But after all, there still is that weird feeling of loosing attraction or interest in my girlfriend, which I dont know how to cope with anymore. I seriously dont want to lose her, and feel terrible about all that, because she really loves me for who I am.The thought of breaking up with her feels horrible and does not really make sense to me, but it still pops up at times. So my question would be, If anyone of you ever experienced similar situations or maybe has an idea what I should do? Is this a possible part of the reboot?
Could be a part of your flatline, if you love her, stick through with it and just keep connecting on a deep level. You will not regret it in the long wrong if you think this woman is that lovely. Cheers!
I already guessed that too but thanks The things that bother me the most are that I dont seem to feel as much as before while kissing or touching each other. Also being sad out of nowhere while being with her and stuff like that. I can only hope that it goes away soon
When you are really into a woman this things never happens. It doesn't matter that you are into porn or not. Your guts are telling you that something is not fullfiling with her and that you should look elsewere. She is amazing... you don't want to loose her but you know deep in your soul that there is something better out there for you. My advice is to trust your guts, end the relationship not only for you but for her also. She deserve a guy that is crazy about her like she is crazy about you, don't be selfish and let her find someone like that and give yourself the chance to find a woman that really rock your world.
Even If i dont want to admit it yet, there probably is much truth to your answer. I still need some time to figure things out, but i definitely believe I deserve to be happier and she deserves it even more.
Every relationship has a honeymoon period and then it wears off. No one who's dating or married for years and years feels the same as they did in the first few weeks/months. The novelty and newness wears off.
