ED and Penetration issues

Are you abstaining from masturbation or only from porn?

 

You should take your focus away from the fear, away from women, and complete a reboot. Then you can think about being with a woman, until then, it will only slow your process.

 

for me i managed to penetrate a few times after sticking it in right away... waiting any period of time and it goes away... but im on Day 11 now and so far no activity down in my nether regions. so thats all i have to say. but when you are physically healed i dont think nerves will REALLY be a problem. when i was on viagra i constantly wondered if i would lose my Erection but it didnt matter because it sustained itself. IDK. i feel like if physically you become healed it wont be a problem, some minor angst.

 

You're dealing with performance anxiety. You can probably resolve it through mindfulness meditation, or you could go see a therapist to work on some ways to manage the anxiety. Anxiety causes physiological reactions that makes it more difficult to get and maintain an erection. Failure to get and maintain an erection causes anxiety. And the cycle goes around and around. You need to find a way to interrupt it.

Meanwhile, quitting PMO can only help. You will respond better to "normal" sexual stimuli (not P, not your own hand), and your performance will improve when you're not wasting Os on M. And believe it or not, you can be honest with women about this. They often appreciate the honesty, and if they are willing to be patient with you, that should help reduce the anxiety level.

 

Hey, I have exactly the same problem as you.

It's more common than you think. Everything you said, happens to me too. I think it's a mixture of performance anxiety and a warped mind. By successfully rebooting, I think we can win half the battle. It'll be easier.

But yes - it sucks. On my successful intercourse attempts, I noticed that I'm completely relaxed. I remember once, my ex-gf told me that she was a bit nervous too. That made me calmer knowing that..then I managed to penetrate. I think honesty is key.