Today has been by far the most disappointing day for a good while. My search history was filled with porn and my wife got a hold of it. I hope she is wanting to forgive me and move forward. I really do. I want to drop my perversions and have my family. I can live without a cumshot, but I can't live knowing I lost my family. Today, is the crossroad. I want to quit porn. I've been trying to, but not hard enough it seems. I'd like some form of accountability and whether or not anyone had advice. It's hurts like hell because my wife can't even be around me now. She is hurt. I did this. That's the worst part. I could've just put the phone down all those times.
I think that you should make the commitment to quit PMO, but not because your wife caught you, but because you will greatly improve your your life by doing so. By quitting PMO you will be happier and much more successful, guaranteed. Start by setting up the public day counter at the top of the page, then delete your porn account, files and passwords. Spend all of your sexual energy on you wife and your relationship with her. Don't relapse, but if you do, limit the exposure and keep it vanilla. Continue to learn from others here on NoFap regarding how they overcame their addiction, and consider starting a journal. Here is great thread that details some of the benefits of nofap: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t...from-quitting-porn-10-year-anniversary.79544/
Thanks, pal. I've been here before, but I've never been so serious before. My wife is hurt big time. Won't really talk, wants space, doesn't respond when I say I love her. I fear the worst. I hope she will forgive me. I've already been struggling, but now I cannot continue PMO.
She is hurt for a good reason. But what has happened to you will be a very good thing eventually. Now it's time to speak to her about your issues and to ask her for forgiveness and also for help! A wife by your side in this fight can be a powerful ally. So you can install, for example, accountability software and she can set the password. I'm sure that now you are going to have a difficult time, but she will be by your side at the end, especially if she sees that you want to improve and be a better husband. Take courage bro, you will win this fight.
I'm dealing with the same thing but with my husband. I got caught camming and even though it was 2 years ago, he is still hurt and every fight goes back to what I did. I'm trying to get better for him and our kids, cause I have no life without them by my side. Sending prayers. You're not alone.
When she is calmer you need to tell her what's going on. You don't like P, you NEED P so there is a huge difference. I am sure is going to be difficult to understand. My girlfriend was in shock when I told her about my addiction, altought she hasn't seen what kind of P turned me on so I am glad for that. She has to know what's happening to you and what do you really want to do. I hope the best for you
We had our argument and I know she's hurt. Since, then she talks to me and gives me hugs and love. Things are coming together. I got self help books and we've set a milestone to prove myself. Since then, I've been trying very hard. It's hard to believe that I have symptoms of a recovering addict. I get the shakes, flashing images, heavy breathing, clammering,, even sweating to avoid porn. Thanks for commenting and giving me encouragement. Bless you and your endeavors.
Frankly, it's better if your spouse finds out and you deal with it, together. If 2 people can tackle that, theirs is true marriage. As the song says, "True love travels on a gravel road."
Same thing happened to me and my wife last summer. But she walked in on me while doing the dirty deed! She pretty much freaked out and still is very upset about it. I confessed I’ve been watching for years and years and it hit her pretty hard. I’ve been trying to quit for years and too ashamed to ask her for help to quit. But time does heal and she’s working on trying to forgive me. Her knowing has helped a lot. I haven’t visited a porn site since then. For the rest of us sharing your dirty little secret with someone ( not us ) helps tremendously.
I am proud of you. This is going to be the best thing that could happen to you, long term. You can do this.
Did you know that Terry Crews also struggled with porn while married? I was surprised. Look up how he quit
Good to hear that you decided to quit for good! It's going to be a difficult journey but a fully rewarding one once complete. My only comment is to not make the decision to quit based on your family. You should use that as a motivator, but the decision to quit needs to be from yourself. I say this because you can hide the addiction from other people if you really want to, with deleting search history and stuff, and trust me, with a bad enough addiction you will. But you will never be able to hide it from yourself. So think of your family during times of temptation, but the decision to quit has to come from within.
You should tell her that you were addicted and hope she will be understanding. Plus, now it will be easier to quit porn as you will have someone to hold you accountable. Women appreciate reassurance, so if you can promise her you will stop and actually commit to it, she'll see how much you actually care about her and your family. You need to be very open and tell her everything.
