Day 16 (Hobbit) I have urges, but I can handle them. Funny paradox - the less sexual thoughts I have before bed, the more sex dreams I have (or more I remember). Good luck Fellowship You are awesome!
Checking in brave Fellowship!! Sorry for not checking in yesterday, terrible day, but i check with my AP though. Fellowship, i have an important annoucement to make: today i watched a Mark Queppet webclass, where he talks about the importance of having a convergent mindset in a community. Same goal, same strategy. So from now on, the criteria that i use for myself i will use for the Lord of the Rings challenge. I give a lot of thought on this on the past, but gave it up because i realize i was raising the bar to high, and many of you couldn´t handle it. now i see it´s the strongest and best path to quit porn and masturbation for good. So adding to the previous existing rules: no porn, no masturbation, no edging, i will add 2 new rules: - no porn subs (softcore, erotica, any kind of sexy content). Porn subs flood your brain with unnatural sexual stimulation, the same way porn does. so if you watch porn subs, more than a slippery moment (5-10 minutes), that´s a relapse. - no paid sex. If you engage with prostitutes, sexual massages, etc... anything with a sexual conotation that is done within a commercial trade is a relapse. Sex should come from a bond between two people. paying for sexual activities reduces people to objects, objects to be used. In a deeper sense there is no difference between paying your internet provider for porn, and paying a woman for sex. These new rules are in fact not new, i have spoken out many times against this, but this time i will actually put them in the challenge. I know the challenge will become harder, but i truly believe it´s for the best. The goal becomes crystal clear and there are no blind spots now. All unnatural sexual stimulation must go. And only a shinny confident man will emerge from this. Have a great day my friends. See you tomorrow
Day 139 Urges have been easier to manage today! I've had no temptation to relapse, but did feel slightly insecure in my singleness - I'm not desperate for a relationship but I'm becoming more easily triggered when I realise I like a girl or see happy couples. I'm beginning to see why so many people decide not to count the days anymore; on one hand it feels tedious, but I know that the moment I stop taking this reboot seriously is the moment I begin to fail. I will not stop counting the days until I reach Mount Doom on Day 500 - but even if I do reach that milestone, I reckon I will need to keep track of the days all the same.
Day 7 complete! Very clean streak so far, I'm happy about that. Lots of battles won, like @Paul S. is doing. I think that's a really good idea. @RiseToGreatness Thanks again for putting so much dedication into this challenge. I fully approve of the two new rules; they will help us focus even more on our collective goal and make us better people in the end. We're in the fight of our lives. @newbobido Keep on doing your best! It sounds like you're very aware of your usual triggers and the things in your environment that make you more vulnerable. That's a good thing to know and it'll help you do well. St. Ignatius of Loyola, pray for us!
Hey guys, I was an active member of this support group and also successful in quitting porn 1 year ago but I am again in the same addiction due to compulsive use of porn from last 2 months. I really need some support group to quit this addiction for once and for good. Please count me in the challenge.
Day 39 complete after a few times when I looked for some sexy images I now feel that I have some of the old neural pathways revived. But I did’t look at any images yesterday and not planning to do it today. I felt bad this week because my wife didn’t have sex with me when we had planned it, but I talked to her yesterday and I understand that she she still does love me, she is just not into sex. For me I don’t know if it’s a legit need to have sex with my partner or it’s just that she is the only one I can have sex with and I want sex in general.
Just a quick question: after a couple of hours i will finish a 40 day streak. And what about ranks and items, will i start with rank hobbit and gain all items until day 40?
That’s it… I’m out! Just kidding. Seems totally reasonable and honestly I would have assumed those were relapses anyway.