Normalization of Promiscuity is Depressing

I think there are different levels of choosing, in my own life from the past but also now when the mind dips.
So are you at university or even a teacher? You have a pretty full arsenal.
Yes, I'm going off topic again. Regards to the author of this thread.

 

I see no reason why people can't get married young in our current society, if they want to. Most sub-groups of society that follow abstinence until marriage are also groups that commonly have young marriages.

But of course younger marriages also has to come couples with a proper understanding of what marriage is, or else those marriages are just going to be more likely to fail. We don't want people rushing into marriage just so they can have sex.

But another important factor is that this whole mindset of "not having a sexual outlet" is kind of toxic imo. You don't *need* a sexual outlet. The Bible even encourages people to remain single and not ever get married, which means you would never get a sexual outlet at all, and yet the Bible says that's good and it's a better way to live.

The whole culture of marriage was so different back then, and I think the further we stray from that model, the more the idea of waiting until marriage for sex is going to seem very difficult.

But the thing that really bothers me is when people act like it's impossible. It's absolutely not even remotely close to impossible to wait until marriage for sex, or even to go your whole life without having sex. Sex is not a need, it's a desire. You do not need to fulfill your every desire. In fact, it's quite healthy to learn self control and learn to go without some of your desires.

Nobody is going to die from not having sex. And the in my experience, the less obsessed you are with thinking about sex all the time, the less you even care about it and the easier it is to ignore those desires if you can't fulfill them in an appropriate way.

 

Yeah, this thread has definitely gone very off topic, which is a bit of a shame, because I don't want it to get shut down. I was pretty careful to not make this political or religious, but it's gone both of those directions in multiple ways, and is probably going to be shut down if that continues.

 

Learn self control... that's what you do. How is this even a question?

If a man, for example, has a strong desire to have sex with a woman who doesn't want to have sex with him, what does he do with that desire? He learns self control, of course. The only other option is a heinous crime.

I don't understand why so many people seem to operate as if self control isn't an option. It is quite a healthy option.

 

This has nothing to do with the oversexualization and promiscuity of twenty year old women. They are perfectly capable of waiting until marriage to have sex, or getting married at their age if they don't want to wait. It's not about people not being able to get married... people don't want to get married. And even if they do, they certainly don't want to wait until marriage to have sex. It's not like it's not an option, it's a perfectly valid option that is completely attainable. People just don't want to do it, and don't even see the merit in it.

 

Can we please stop making this into a religious debate? I am an extremely devout Christian, and yet I managed to make this thread completely non-religious, as per the rules of the site. I would be pretty irked if it gets shut down because everyone is going so far off topic into all kinds of religious and political crap.

PM each other if you want to have a religious debate. This is not the place for that. It's one thing to discuss what the Bible says about certain things, because those discussions were somewhat relevant, but this is not relevant at all. It's completely off topic and not related at all to this thread. Stop. Please and thank you.

 

I don’t mind putting in effort. But if there is no reward for my hard work, then I won’t do the work, I’ll just sit down and relax

I just don’t like the quote because it makes it seem like there isn’t anything that fun to do after death. Like we are just standing around smiling and having small talk conversations and listening to Christian music forever.

In my humble opinion, I think God is a lot cooler than people make “Him” out to be. That’s why I think there might be sex in the afterlife, or at least some fun activities

Maybe at least for the people who like to do fun things. Everyone else can engage in small talk all day long and listen to Christian music.

I’ll be running around dancing with angel women!

 

well, that’s a relief then. An eternity of NoFap with no possibility of sex would be tough

 

Thanks, yea I like the idea of working on relationships with others.. because yea going to the gym and waking up at 5am every day and other self improvement stuff isn’t going to magically make a romantic relationship happen