How get a girlfriend/partner in 3 steps!

Meetup.com is not a dating site, but it's a great way to meet someone and then ask them on a date. It's another way to get out there and meet people, and dating is all about meeting people. The more you date or meet people the better your success will become in finding your partner.
Good luck

 

im saying you should just experince life and not let negative feelings stop you ,life is about experiencing

 

So you have a full year on the hard mode? This is real? No cutting corners?

 

This sentence sums up my thought, my belief. It has happened in the past, it didn't bring me a girlfriend, but it brought many other satisfactions. When I'm at my best, I give 100% of myself, things happen almost like magic

I truly believe that a love story is real when it happens naturally, without chasing it or forcing events. Of course, it's tough when things don't happen, when opportunities don't come along, and that's exactly what's happening to me right now.
Regarding dating apps, I've tried, but to no avail. I'm not genuinely convinced, which is why it doesn't work for me.

 

Dating apps don't work because there's almost no real women there.

But you and I are both dialed in to the same thinking, about how things happen for you.

So go out there and build that empire, find your success, build up your fitness.

There's going to be someone at the end. We know this.

Just put your axe to the grindstone, keep secluded, and bring it to the finish line.

Come to me or this site for support. You aint gonna find it out in the world.

 

After 14 years on them, I've learned it's a losing game for men. Just full of women who want to be treated like a queen and nothing less. Very high expectations, and a guy like me will never win.

Paid dating sites are worse, like match dot com when I was on it. Once I bought a subscription, you're locked in it and you can't delete your profile until the period is over.

The biggest set back for me right now is porn has fucked up my mind so badly and destroyed any self esteem that I had left, that I'm way too scared to ask anyone out in real life. I've preferred them to make the first move.

 

You might consider taking the reboot to hard mode. It'll even out your thinking,
and you'll see better prospects for relationships, fitness, business, etc.

 

I do come to this site for support from time to time, but please get your head out the gutter with those last two sentences.

If people on this site exist who can support you, people exist out there too. Yes, you risk being outcast by some people. But get over yourself. Not everyone has to like you for you to be okay. Think of it like you’re trading interaction with 80% of people for really healthy interaction with 20% of people.

I intend to open up about my struggles with this to a friend, and more people, in the next few months. Sometime in Winter break is the idea.

Be yourself, and you’ll attract people receptive to that personality. Both in romantic relations and in friendships.

 

What will you regret 2 years from now? 1. Not asking out a girl?
2. Or asking out a girl who rejects you?

On the deathbed, people tend to regret the things they didn’t do, the actions they didn’t take. You will become one of those people if you don’t have the audacity to take the leap.

Ask, if you get rejected that’s okay. If she doesn’t want to stay friends with you after, unless you asked out in a really sleazy fucked up way she’s not worth being your friend.

You can make more friends, but you can’t get back wasted time.

Girls who like you don’t want you to fail, they’re waiting for you to make a move. They won’t wait forever.

 

In time I'll get there. I finally moved out of the house I've lived in since 1999 and FAR away from my parents. Those are the biggest players in my depression and why I felt like a loser

 

Leaving your parents house is a good step, I encountered lots of challenges and growth in the last 2 years as a result of making the same decision.

But this isn't going to solve all your problems, it will generate new issues. I would advise now that you have control over your environment, and have a true sense of autonomy, start building your batcave. CGP Grey has a good video called "Spaceship You."

Now that you've left, all that remains is to change what's inside. Inside your room, inside your body, and inside your mind.

 

Look man, this is my opinion and I have a right to it.