35 and Older Accountability Group

Checking in - hope everyone is doing okay and keeps strong today.

 

Today marks 9 months exactly but I lost my battle today….
Back to day 0

 

I would like to ask your advice about the fall of the day.
Do I really have to start from day zero if today I started having slippery fluid after ejaculation and I did a prostate massage to get rid of it and then I ejaculated which happened very quickly and I didn't understand what happened.
I'm confused, what should I do?

 

And while doing it, I felt no pleasure and I did not fantasize about anything

 

Doesn't sound like much of an issue to me. I suppose in the long run it's about recovery and you've been doing great. I don't know the full circumstances but sounds like it was an accident. I wouldn't beat yourself up over it.

 

Feeling low, im pissed at most people, just want have sometime to be alone

 

Day 3.

 

día 1

 

Thanks for your reply and your thoughts.
What do others think? Should I set the counter back and celebrate 9 months?
@artifact what do you think?

 

I think intentions matter a lot. If there was no intention to edge/fantasies going on, then I wouldn't count it. There's a big difference between edging and accidently going over (which is a reset) and going over due to something that isn't even in the sexual ball park.

Having said that, if you now start getting prostate massages on a regular basis, you're probably cheating lol.

 

Thank you for your understanding and congratulations!
Yes, easy hasn't stayed in my journey since my wife started not wanting intimacy anymore as she slowly started menopause.

And I will then set the counter back to how it was.

I wish you luck and success in your journey too my friend.

 

I think I'm not cheating, because since my wife doesn't want to have sex with me anymore because of her mood swings, I get fluid after urinating if I haven't ejaculated for a long time and I don't like that feeling. That's why I did the massage, because I had read on the Internet that it is not bad. But I didn't like doing it and I won't do it again because the feelings were not pleasant.

Thank you for your thoughts and I wish you success in your journey and to everyone else here.

 

Congratulations! Keep it up my friend!

 

Mid-week check-in. All good so far. Best wishes to my fellow group members.

And to those of you who are struggling at the moment: Remember that there are no failures, only learning experiences.

 

Checking in - doing really badly recently but P is making things so much worse so going to check in everyday and get a streak going as I need to as it tanks my self esteem and doesn't help my mental heath recovery. Come on!!

 

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Mid week check in. Things are going well but I need to be vigilant the next couple of weeks. I have now reset I think 3 times around the 50 day mark. I don't feel like it is going to happen this time but its better to be prepared.