Feeling guilty about expressing your masculinity?

Be proud of your gender.
Destiny/fate/chance decided you were going to be the gender you are before you existed.
Embrace yourself yo.

 

Plz elaborate .............
What I understand that you are feeling shy of talking/writing aboout your sexual addictions. Is it so ?

 

Yeah! I got the point but I dont have the solution.

 

I'm not sure if I feel guilty about my masculinity exactly, but maybe it's true.

I remember hanging out with a couple of gay guys in the city. I was thinking things like "how gay they are, how gay they talk and behave!" and "how happy they must be now, that no-one's mocking them for it!". In school, gay shaming is quite obvious and open, so they probably didn't have such an awesome time.

This makes me think: why am I jealous for those gay people expressing the gender identity and sexuality freely? I shouldn't have any problem whatsoever expressing mine. It seems to be difficult somehow.
I suffer from some social anxiety and sometimes I'm afraid that people judge me, see through me and realize how I'm not strong and not masculine. Part of my anxiety is just in my imagination, because really people have been really friendly with me for as far as I remember (even if I'm weird sometimes).
But some part of my anxiety has a basis in reality. I have this thing that I really don't know how I come across. Sometimes I have the desire to see my behaviour in groups recorded to objectively judge from outside how I behave.

 

Women like masculinity.

 

Nowadays with modern third-wave femisim, they'd probably prefer a feminine gay gay over a masculine straight guy because a masculine man is always the rapist.

 

I have noticed what you say to be true at times. Thing is or the way I see it/deal with it is everyone is differant I am talking about the opisite sex, some girls are insecure some form little clicks. I just try to spend time someone else. What disturbs me is when this leads into buiseness life/workplace. Then it can feel like walking on eggshells. Thats were I try to be wait untill she figures it out that I am strait up a man and I WILL respect her femininity. Not surprisingly she has met some idiots before and had hear head filled with horror stories, But I say be myself first then deal with the whole trust takes time with girls.
Respect yourself your manhood its worth it for both of you

 

yeah that's true.. lately I see that this is getting more and more of a problem. and then they are wondering why men start paying more attention to buspirone coupon... or at least I one do... unfortunately.

 

Oh well no one over said it was going to be EZ lol

 

I know I am! Yay for being feminine!

 

I use to walk around with my back bent forward and my head down. And no women would talk to me. Then I made my back straight fixed my forward head posture and started walking around like James Bond.
A lot more woman notice me. I wish could talk to them like James Bond.

 

There were no feminine men In the 1970.

 

That's absolutely not true. I mean I haven't met all the men of 1970, so I can't say for sure, but neither can you. Society has played a big factor, yes, but some people are just born more feminine or more masculine. I can pretty much guarantee there were feminine men back then. They probably just stifled that to "fit in," whereas nowadays feminine men are more accepted in society, so they might not feel the need to fake their feelings.

 

Women like some masculinity and some femininity in men.

Just think about what men like. Most men like a girl that likes video games, sports, beer, et cetera. Though they also like women who are girlish and have a feminine body.

Women want a man that looks like a man, with male instincts. But who shares the same interests as her (i.e. clothes, emotionally expressive talk, soap opera-type TV). This is why metrosexual men (i.e. David Beckham) are quite popular with women.

 

Maybe you shouldn't be defining your gender by sexual acts?

There is a lot more to being male, than just sex. A lot more. The act of sex is a small part of my masculinity, if it's any part of it.

There are monks who have never had sex, and are definitely male.

 

Are you saying it's impossible to generalize about women? Obviously, generalizations are never going to be 100% true, but I never implied otherwise.

Women tend to like men who have interests similar to theirs. Women tend to be interested in fashion, certain TV shows, et cetera.

They teach you lots of false things. I learned more BS from authority figures in my childhood than anywhere else.

 

Be proud of who you are and you will become comfortable embracing it! Is it possible that the type of people you date (or surround yourself with) are making you feel this way? Maybe go for someone who you normally wouldn't go for and pay attention to how you feel around them as a man. When you find someone who compliments your personality and masculinity, it can help you feel better about it. Not that you need someone to validate you! I just mean that changing our surroundings can sometimes help us see ourselves more clearly. Good luck!