I can't get past 2 days

Stop saying you CAN'T. Totally wrong mindset. Of course you can. What's going to happen if you don't? Are you going to die?

When the urge comes, go for a walk, do SOMETHING, but learn self discipline.

 

The first few days are truly difficult.

Are you spending a lot of time at home? Obviously I don't know your work or your school situation, but can you commit to spending the majority of your first few days out of your house or at least out of your bedroom or wherever you do most of your fapping?

If you can spend as much time as you can in a public place, especially if you're busy, you at least limit your windows of temptation to bedtime and waking up ... and if you had a busy day and exhaust yourself, you might even be too tired to fap.

If you can do that for 2-3 days you will see for yourself that you have made progress, and hopefully that can get your streak off the ground. If you can get control for just a couple of days, you can keep control for more.

 

Come here everyday for at least the first 90 days and especially when you feel the urge. Get rid of your smartphone. Put quality filters on your PC/laptop/tablet. Have someone you trust set the password or make sure the settings are correct and enter an extremely random lengthy password you won't remember. Identify your triggers. Start a journal. Get an accountability partner.

 

Kurmutziku, there's a deep underlying unsorted out issue within everyone. It may be loneliness, depression, social anxiety, self pitying, introduction to instant gratification substances in childhood, terrible incidents in the past or anything that you haven't got the guts to face in your reality. The act of watching porn isn't driven by the desire to view naked bodies itself, but is a chance you use to escape whatever the unpleasant reality in your life. Find what it is and start working on the problem to fix that underlying issue. Sometimes there maybe two or more issues that drive your porn watching habit. Prioritise them in an order on what affects you the most.

If the issue is loneliness,

Start becoming more outgoing, join forums on the topics you are passionate about and find people with similar interests, go for a jog every morning (you'd eventually end up with a couple of friends outside), or join the gym and meet people.

If the issue is depression,

Find whats the cause of depression and work on that. Read books related to loving our life. Start feeling grateful for the little positive things that happen in your life. You've been given a LIFE, the greatest gift every soul could get, use it, improve it, enjoy it.

If the issue is social anxiety,

Reading books like "How to win friends and influence people?" would be a great start to start connecting with people to kill your social anxiety.

Stay strong bro!

 

This reminds me when I started. Whilst I'm no way in the clear now, I think back and remember how hard 2 or 3 days without PMO was for me. At first you just cannot believe you can beat the urges. It seems impossible. You've always given in before, so surely it'll be the same again?! You're brain is livid at you for denying it its regular hit.

Fight through to a week, or two weeks. Understand that these urges can actually be beaten and are not too powerful. From then on you can start improving and slowly grinding them down. Relapse isn't the end of the world, so long as you're on a positive trajectory, i.e. ever longer streaks of abstinence, and greater power over and understanding of your cravings.

 

IT IS ALL IN YOUR HEAD. YOU HAVE TO WANT IT! STOP FAPPING. STOP IT!

 

Deactivate Instagram. Instagram was worse for me than hardcore porn.

 

It's all good homie. You went longer than you said you would be able to. Use that to fuel the next big stretch.

 

I agree completely-it's normal and healthy to look and pleasure one's self to naked bodies and have sexual desires/fantisies but too much and an "addiction" leads to a desire to more and creates a feedback loop that fuels dopamine rush and need to avoid whatever it is that leads you to click that link or video one more...ten more...100 more times.

"Avoidance Fuels Anxiety"-whatever it is that's bugging you, it's important to not beat yourself up over it and remember to be kind to yourself, and to also confront it and focus on overcoming your fear and self-labelling mentality. More importantly is to take it one day at a time, find what things you feel in your life matter the most OTHER than relationships/sex. You are NOT your addiction, this is not going to determine your future when you work on it and desire to grow and evolve, and you deserve your own forgiveness and release of negativity more than anyone else can give to you.