100 Cold Approaches

Did an approach in my hometown [which is more on the countryside].

Crossed a woman on the street and went indirect. This woman was Ukrainian, not a refugee though. She was a bit older than me [maybe end 20s or begin 30s] but I was quite blown away by the beauty. These Slavic girls have an aura of feminity that girls here simply lack, unique eye colour too. Refugees welcome.

We get chatting but she mentions that she's here with her partner, so I didn't go for the number.

Remark:

My inner game is not on point: she looked at her phone once to check the hour [she had an appointment] and I immediately interpreted this as signal to end the interaction. It's like my brain is processing these things in my disfavor. It's self-limiting and reflects a weak psychological foundation. I think I resisted the urge to end the conversation but still... I need to give less fucks.

I also found myself in a chit-chat situation in the salad section of the supermarket with a MILF. I technically opened on her, asking if I need to move so she can grab the salad. She then states an opinion about a salad. We chat a bit but it's in French. She also had a kid who was shouting "Maman, maman!", at a certain point she was looking at her kid and then I also ended it. I'm not going to count this one.

I did 1 night game opening last weekend. The girl was actually pretty pleasant to talk to, despite the fact that women tend to look more intimidating during the night. Should have done some more.

99/100

 

Today I had 2 dates and did 2 approaches, thus finishing this set of 100 approaches.

I had a second date with the girl I had a coffee with before Easter break. We ate somewhere and it was pleasant. I was sitting next to her [small restaurant] and I did have some mild kino [touching her arm when making jokes], although I didn't reach the point of real seduction. I think it's likely I will see her again.

In PUA terms, I didn't really meet her by "opening" her but we got engaged in conversation naturally. I do think it fits within the notion of cold approaching by getting clean, going out and actually entering the world of women.

I then had a coffee date with the Albanian girl I approached in the supermarket last week. It's the first date I got from a supermarket approach, which is cool I guess. It's really hard to go into seduction mode when you're just having a coffee with someone. Venue hopping isn't self-evident either because girls don't just give you their whole day [which you shouldn't do either]. The conversation just boiled down to talking about Albania. The girl was the introvert quirky type, which I don't mind. Not sure if this will lead to a second date.

I must say that in a way I'm sometimes elated when a girl says "Uhm, can you ask in English?" when I approach her, but the date with the girl of my country was more pleasant. There isn't that language barrier, you can express yourself more easily.

I really feel exhausted because I literally dedicated my whole afternoon to women. Just now in the evening I did some mild escalation with a girl who sleeps in the same corrider as me. I was in the kitchen, started talking with her, asked her to sit next to me on the couch and did a bit of kino whilst watching TV. I also tried to kiss but she rejected. She didn't revolt with the touching. Suddenly her friend called and she had to go. I asked her number and she 'shit tested' me by saying "Hmm, do I want that?" to which I said "You can reject me. I don't care.". It's true, I don't care, and I might use that sentence more in future approaches. She said "Maybe I'll see you around."

100/100
11 numbers
3 dates

This set of approaches took me a very long time to finish. It was only until March that I got into a certain approach rhythm where I started to get a number here and there. The first 50 approaches were just too incidental and way too spreaded over time, so I never reached a state of momentum. It's only in the last 7 weeks that I did enough approaches to get a bit more comfortable.

 

So I gues I'll start a third round of 100 approaches...

2 approaches. 1 number.

A girl in the library who I recognized from class [I don't know her though]. Her face became very red when I asked for the number. She rejected but said she appreciated the talk.

The other approach was a girl from Iran in a supermarket. Asked her about the bread she had in her hand and then we end up chatting. Have the number.

I also spend the day in the library with the girl I had lunch with yesterday. We go and grab some food and then she asks me "So, we go eat in the park?" and then I suggested her apartment, which she agreed upon. I think I could have made some seduction moves there, her sister wasn't there. But it was just comfort building mainly. I did some light touching throughout the day: touching lower back, grabbing her lower arm, etc. I think a skilled seducer would have been able to get at least a kiss out of that situation on the apartment...

I must say that I was constantly trying to monitor the frame. I like to walk slowly so when we walk she walked a bit faster and ahead of me. I grabber her upper arm and then pulled her towards me saying "Walk slower.". Sometimes she said "Shouldn't we go that way?" when we were walking in the city. Never abide! Lead. Be comfortable in your decisions.

2/100
1 number
0 dates

 

Earlier I said I want to try some direct daygame in the next 100 approaches. Honestly, I think you have to have a really strong mental/social caliber to be able to go direct in a smooth way... But maybe the point is to try it anyway to kill the ego instead of waiting "on the right time".

Well, I was walking in the street and two girls were walking in front of me. In a loud voice I said "Excuse me, you have a nice sweater." She just nodded and kept walking.

Daygame purists might argue that this isn't a real "set", that I had to "stop" them and state my intent. I was carrying a luggage so doing that daygame jog and front stop was really out of the question. Baby steps...

3/100

 

Right, it wasn't socially savvy. Although I had no intention to start a conversation but instead just 'deliver' the compliment for the sake of courage, getting alongside them would have been less weird indeed.

Good points on the flybly compliments too, I will try them out.

Honestly mate, I currently find myself in a hellish mood. I think I got ghosted by the girl I hung out with this week. I know that I shouldn't care, reframe it as a learning experience, do more approaches etc. but it just fills me with a bad feeling. It's a toxic cocktail of confusion, lust, despair and bitterness. I have to work on my entitled mindset and weak emotional control.

 

1 date. 1 approach.

I had a second date with the Albanian girl [from the previous 100 approaches]. We just had a coffee on a terrace. No escalation whatsoever.

In the beginning she said that she felt lazy today but didn't want to be rude so that she went on a date with me anyway. Point noted. I personally found this a very socially unsavvy thing to say. I'm not sure if a girl needs to be jumping in the air to go on a date with you in order to seduce her, but I guess there needs to be a certain enthusiasm. Luckily though, I saw this date as an afterthought, so the hit on my ego was small [I already experienced a mini ego death this weekend anyway]. But then again, getting the ego bruised should be welcomed with open arms. Less entitlement. More detachment.

Previous week I had 2 dates with a girl and it was really the focal point of my week. A big mistake. It should be an afterthought. A side dish. When I sat in the library with her, I couldn't even concentrate on my task, but I was constantly having the conversation with myself on how I should "game" her. It's not like it's the other way around. Because I invested my emotions too much in her, the feeling when she ghosted me was torturous.

This is something I have to really watch out with in the future. Make girls an afterthought. Getting a number? Who cares, they flake anyway.

Did an indirect approach at the printers of the library. I think a personal conversation was about to take off, but I wasn't in a chatty mood.

4/100

Hey man, how is your current lifestyle? Are you going out, presenting yourself in a respectable manner to the world? Are you recurrently having smalltalk with shop clerks for example? Are you trying to make eye contact with women when you're in the city?

I think it's easier to get into daygame if you have the right mental calibration. If you're currently not fulfilled with your days, don't exercise, fill the mind/body with junk, then the barrier to do daygame effectively will be harder to surmount.

I didn't contact the Greek girl after she LJBF'd me.

I was talking about the local girl. It died on the vine.