13, Want help.

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Mystical Furry, Aug 20, 2020.

  1. Mystical Furry

    Mystical Furry Fapstronaut

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    Ok, so I was told to stop being so horny, and go nofap, so I looked up NoFap, and here I am.

    So, let me start by talking about who I am. I am a 13 year old Biologically male, but on some days I feel more like a female. I am very attracted to cosplaying as animals, hence my username, and I'm only sexually attracted to males.

    The reason I am here typing this, is because I've been attracted to porn/sex since I was around 9-10. I find my self really interested in sex, and I just cant stop myself from thinking about it. I've always wondered what it would be like to actually experience it myself, but I legally have to wait as im a minor. The thought of it however, distracts me which gets in my way of every day life. I don't plan on stopping masturbation, but I'm unsure as to how I can masturbate, and have the same effect, without having to watch porn, and be able to not focus on sex.

    I have ADHD, a lot of anxiety, stress, paranoia, and depression. In the past month or so I found myself drinking whiskey and masturbating, and I don't want that to happen again. I'm hoping that you guys could help, and if you take the time to read this, I greatly appreciate it. Also, before I go, There is definitely more things to be said, but for now I'm going to stick with this as I'm not sure how to word all the other stuff.
     
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  2. Mystical Furry

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    Also, if this seems to work out, which I have good hopes for it, then I'll go ahead and share the rest of my story with you guys and gals.
     
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  3. Welcome to NoFap. You are already helping yourself by joining this community, and I'm really proud to see that. I'm wishing you all the best. Stay strong boy.
     
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  4. IGY

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    These are challenging factors. As well as being horny a lot, which you mentioned, these other things can make it harder to avoid porn. Sometimes, we end up doing that because we feel awful and we think watching sex will make us feel better. So, one approach is to think about ways to manage these issues. If you can, it will be easier to stop watching porn. You said several things here that took balls, so well done! :) Keep sharing and it will help you gain strength. Good luck!
     
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  5. Akeakua

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    @Mystical Furry Welcome to NoFap :)

    I've been using a free app on my phone called Woebot. It's an unintrusive AI therapy app that checks in with you every once in a while. I have rarely been annoyed with it, and it seems much more refined than other apps like it. It actually helped me yesterday when urges came on. If you want to give it a try.

    Many on this site are using guided meditation apps too. They may be worth a try as well.

    I'm happy you're here!
     
  6. Mystical Furry

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    First off I just wanna say : thanks for the advice, and encouragement. Second : Damn, 413 days without porn masturbation, or orgasm. I plan on no porn, but holy crap, I dont think I could go that long without an orgasm or masturbation. GGs on that long.
     
  7. Beat_Wizard

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    First of all, who told you to stop being horny. You are 13, you're still discovering your sexuality. It's totally normal to be horny in your age and shows that you are a healthy young man. and it's perfectly normal to masturbate at you age. take babysteps. quit the porn first of all and only masturbate when you feel the need.

    If you sometimes feel like a female, that's perfectly fine. You feel what you feel, you are what you are. Keep your head up. Now your identity and your sexuality are two different things. If you are turned on by females (meaning the penis gets hard), then you are heterosexual. If you feel more like a female, just watch and see how things develop.

    I don't know how much you can trust your parents, but it's always helped me to talk to mom and dad about my issues and fears. They knew about my porn addiction, about my insecurities, everything. They took away my shame and gave me good advice. If you can, talk to your parents.

    Just stay away from the porn. Find a way to block it on your electronic devices, because it will trash your brain, I can promise you that 100%. It did it to me and I started with porn as a kid too.

    Bare in mind, it's perfectly normal to want sex, feel horny/erotic and explore your sexuality. Also stay away from alcohol and pornography. Most of the time we watch porn or turn to other drugs when we are lonely, bored or anxious and depressed. But that doesn't have to be the only way out of that hole. Find a person you know who will listen to you and they will help you. preferably your parents and if that's not an option, your best friend or the emotionally closest person to you.

    Stay strong.
     
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  8. Mystical Furry

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    Thanks for the advice, funny enough, I was just reading your posts about your life story. For the just stay away from the porn part, Ive decided today to stop my porn habits. My parents already had all the different porn websites blocked on our internet, but of course, me being a horny 13 year old, I found a way to bypass it using a VPN. I have decided, to delete my VPN, and try some other option than porn. I feel like stopping masturbation, would be really hard for me, as Its just something I do that feels natural. Luckily, on this forum I have found other things than porn, one of which is Rap music / Rock music, as it apparently has something to do with something, I forgot all the science and explanation to it. Anyways, thanks for the advice, and I cant wait for your next update on the life story thing!
     
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  9. Beat_Wizard

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    Hey sure, no problem! My advice is, cut out the porn of your life and just masturbate like that from time to time. It's normal to jerk of more often when you are in puberty and will become less the older you get. You need to grow up healthily and porn will just make you unsocial. Find active things to do instead like sports, drawing, singing, writing, acting class or hanging out with friends. Whenever you feel like you gotta talk to somebody, write on this forum or call a friend or your grandma (who sure would be glad to hear from you once in a while ;))

    And when you do masturbate, make it special. Don't just go for a quickie. Take your time, explore your body, use your fantasy and find your inner self/peace. Ideally you should cum after 10-30 minutes. Just make it fun and don't rely on porn. It's a drug

    Lastly thanks for the props on my thread. I'm writing all these things down because I wanna give hope to those who struggle with their life and like me think they can't do it. Glad, if I can help ;)
     
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  10. IGY

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    You're welcome!

    As for my own progress it has taken years to get this far. Also, I am no longer a horny teenager haha! :rolleyes:
     
  11. Mystical Furry

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    Ok well, I made it 3 days, and watched porn, still a new record cause for past 2 years its been a daily thing.
     
  12. Mystical Furry

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    Still trying to figure out how to update my signature thing
     

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