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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by MovingOn97, Jan 4, 2017.

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  1. Jan 4, 2017 #1
    MovingOn97

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    Hey guys and gals I'm 19 M and new here. :)

    I've been struggling with porn addiction for what I believe is 8-9 years now. I have a wonderful family who trusts and loves me. Whatever your opinion on the matter may be, (and you are welcome to have one) I'm a Christian and feel pornography is immoral. I've needed help for a long time kicking this, but don't feel comfortable attending meetings for people struggling with addiction. I know this isn't a perfect substitute, but I feel so alone at times that I hope to be able to both give and receive support in this environment. Not to mention from people who openly fight a similar war. I created an account awhile ago but didn't post... Now with another relapse (reset?) behind me I've decided it was time. Aiming for 10 days.

    Now with all my friends leaving for college and other activities I feel so alone I could cry. Sorry for the cheese, but I needed to get it off my chest.

    So I'll start off with a simple question, what do you do to cope when you feel horny? Right now my brain is hardwired and I need some methods for slowly retraining it.

    Hope all is well,

    - J
     
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  2. Jan 4, 2017 #2
    AndySky180

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    Welcome (back) to NoFap, Movingon97! You have made a very good start, with a great self-introduction and an honesty that serves you well! Please let me know if I can help you with anything here. It's important that you can be frank, because as you realise, no one is going to be harsh on you: we are indeed in this struggle together in the fight against PMO, with all the associated issues of relationships, loneliness, and self-esteem, etc.
    I'm sure others will give you their insights, but basically, I find it's about realising the prior circumstances that set you up, and changing those circumstances. For instance, I used to browse porn on my ipad in bed, either early in the morning, or late at night. Now that I'm clear about that, that's now a definite "No Go" behaviour. It's about being self-aware when you are "being hypnotised" by sexual thoughts, and deliberately refuting them and moving on quickly to something else. It's good also to be able to laugh at yourself. I found that as soon as I started browsing porn, it helped to say out loud "This stuff is just so crappy!! I'm sick of it." And next thing, the energy would just dissipate. There's probably a stack of other ways too . . . but I think ultimately it boils down to "Do I?" or "Don't I?" And it's also about realising that not to proceed won't ever (in fact) kill you. It just feels like it, sometimes, lol! Anyway, all the very best to you, and to your journey ahead!!! Cheers!
     
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    AndySky180

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    PS. I just love your avatar, btw! WELL DONE!!!
     
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  4. Jan 4, 2017 #4
    MovingOn97

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    Good ideas. I read that the trigger is something you almost need to nail down. So I'll give it a try. I think that's what's cool about NoFap. Being frank. Without harsh honesty (and by extention reality) I think it can be near impossible to proceed. Thanks for your kind words.
    P.S. thanks for the avatar comment as well, I love Animal Crossing lol.

    - J
     
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  5. Jan 4, 2017 #5
    AndySky180

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    I also like the fact that from the very first moment, you are showing all the positive attitudes that will set you up to success. Just notice the friendly posts you have left for another new member Praying4Grace (i hope I got the name right!). Well done to you. And yes, you are totally correct about triggers. Be very clear to yourself about what they are. You've got this!!!
     
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  6. Jan 5, 2017 #6
    D . J .

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    Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and not judge you.
     
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  7. Jan 5, 2017 #7
    Praying4Grace

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    You got the name right, AndySky180, although already I hope that a "spiritual" name/avatar will be off-putting to some....
    The exchange of positive posts has been a blessing so far.
     
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