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I've been doing badly on my other challenges. I think the reason is stress causing me to disregulate. But a bright spot has been my ability to stick with this challenge. 10/30
 
So I'm not really sure how these groups are supposed to work but here goes, I struggle with porn and masturbateing mainly when I'm bored or when I feel stressed or depressed. Most of the stuff i look at is off of Twitter or reddit and its very difficult not to venture over to the dark side of what would normally be a good site or social media. I have discovered that if my day starts without looking at P than it's much easier to avoid temptation. I also think not taking my phone into the bathroom would also be a tremendous help to avoid temptation. I also wanted to let everyone in the group know why I want to stop looking at porn. I want to stop because I feel its wrong and I also believe it hurts my relationships with not only my wife but everyone around me even though I might not see it. I hope it was okay to write a post like this. I'm just tired of struggling with lust and would appreciate any input yall might have.
 
Mechdiesel said:
So I'm not really sure how these groups are supposed to work but here goes, I struggle with porn and masturbateing mainly when I'm bored or when I feel stressed or depressed. Most of the stuff i look at is off of Twitter or reddit and its very difficult not to venture over to the dark side of what would normally be a good site or social media. I have discovered that if my day starts without looking at P than it's much easier to avoid temptation. I also think not taking my phone into the bathroom would also be a tremendous help to avoid temptation. I also wanted to let everyone in the group know why I want to stop looking at porn. I want to stop because I feel its wrong and I also believe it hurts my relationships with not only my wife but everyone around me even though I might not see it. I hope it was okay to write a post like this. I'm just tired of struggling with lust and would appreciate any input yall might have.
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Hey Mechdiesel! Welcome! Yes, it's definitely okay to write posts like that! I'm of the mind that exploring, acknowledging, and sharing our feelings is a good thing to do.

One way to use this group is to set a goal (e.g., no porn for 5 days or however many you want) and check into the forum everyday to update us on how you're doing.

I also think it's a good idea to examine as honestly as possible, but also with as little judgment as possible, what works and what doesn't and how it makes you feel. I try to say things like, "yesterday I was tempted, but I did X, Y, Z, and it seemed to really work!" or "yesterday, I caved in. I think the reason I was unable to resist was A, B, C. I'm going to try BLAH BLAH BLAH to deal with A, B, C. We'll see if it helps in the future." That is, I think awareness of problems and constructive solutions help. I'm not such a fan of beating oneself up or judging oneself harshly. But that's just me. It's all about figuring out what will work for you!
 
Hello everyone. This is my first day in the forum. I have been fighting against my addiction to pornography since 17 years ago. It happened by accident (the first time) and since then I haven't been able to recover. I have tried hard many times and have had good days and bad days. At the beginning I had a hard time abstaining for more than 3 weeks, then improved a lot, but couldn't stop permanently. A couple years ago I had my best attempt, but relapsed after 7 months because I made a mistake and relaxed. The last time I slipped was a couple days ago and I am really tired of feeling like this. I am really in pain. I have a beautiful family that I love and enjoy my life except for not being free of this addiction. No one except me knows what I am fighting against and this is being pretty hard for me. I just want to be free of porn forever and I cannot tell you how painful this is for me now, except that I know many of you are in a similar situation and understand me.

I have to work on a computer the whole day and I am alone most of the time. I feel the need to watch porn when I am angry and also when I am stressed. It also happens when I feel disappointed or discouraged.

Rebooting sounds like the process I need. The whole idea of rebooting is exciting and encouraging. So here I am. I am committing to stop porn for once and for all.

As a note, a few hours ago I felt tempted to fall again, but was able to ignore the urge. I watched a video that I like of one of my kids and it made me feel better. I know I will have bad times in this process, as I've had before. But this time I want to resist and become free. I am grateful to be telling you all about this and I appreciate all your help. I am glad to have joined you in this journey of hope.
 
Hello all! I am checking in for another day in this challenge. Yesterday I completed day 2 out of 30.

I just wanted to share with you that I have resumed exercising, since it is an activity that helps me a lot to be more focused and stay mentally stronger. I decided to register on a series of 5K races and I am preparing for the first one, which will be in a couple weeks! I have only participated in one 5K in my life (last year), so I guess this will challenge me more and help me with my fight.

What stuff are you doing to stay strong? I would love to know more about how you do it, since it is always inspiring.

I have lots of work today, so that will definitely help this day too!!
 
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