35 and Older Accountability Group

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by artifact, Nov 24, 2018.

  1. discovery

    discovery Fapstronaut

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    So true. Just by being in this group, or even on this website, means that we are looking for help, which makes everything solicited.

    Yes, exactly! Just get it out of the way. The best thing short of not M'ing at all is to M only to the sensation of touch, without any imagery at all in your head. This would be tough in the beginning and I wouldn't recommend it. It's important to realize that once you know you're going to M, you haven't completely lost as long as you work on HOW you're going to M.

    Working on a gradual reduction from:
    • M'ing to porn
    • M'ing to porn fantasy (playing porn in your head, without the actual screen)
    • M'ing to fantasy based on real life
    • M'ing to only actual memories
    • M'ing to only the sensations of touch, with no imagery
    And of course like you said, always trying to get it out of the way as fast as possible and with longer intervals in-between.

    Treating every M session as working towards a longer term goal, instead of being a slip or relapse that resets your counter back to zero that keeps you stuck in a vicious cycle.
     
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  2. Great streak bro! How are you feeling after it??? Has it changed you??
     
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  3. discovery

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    Thanks man! I know I've said it before, but so good to have you back.
    I'm feeling great. But a lot of that also has to do with the art visualization project. They go hand in hand.
     
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  4. GottaBFree

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    Checking in... counter on 7. Early still. Lots of Urges and monk mode is new, but making it through and trying to remember why it’s important before an urge hits.
     
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  5. WilBil99

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    Back to double digits being hands free today. Great to be back!
     
  6. GottaBFree

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    Counter on 8. Yesterday I got hit by something like a headache that usually is a bad sign for my streaks. Like a dopamine crash or something, but I added another day. The next one seems like an important milestone to me, even though there is nothing extra special about the number 9.
     
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  7. WilBil99

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    Plenty special about making it another day. Congratulations!
     
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  8. alpha.buddy

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    Checking in on this Aloha Friday.....47 days of super intense freedom!!
     
  9. zhuye

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    day 12; check in
     
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  10. You're doing great!
     
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  11. Great to hear. What is art visualization project???
    Yes it's good to be back here!!!
     
  12. discovery

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    Totally! Actually, last night I binged watched most of season 1 of House of Cards. In it, the story focuses a lot on a US congressman who is an alcoholic. At an AA meeting, another guy says how he can't control everything in his life, but he can control 'zero' (after talking about how that day was his 5,215 day (or whatever) without a drink) meaning going back to day zero. It reminded me of your old signature 'If my counter doesn't say zero, then today is a good day".

    The second link in my signature is to the art visualization project. It's something I just kind of stumbled on in a way, but it has been very effective. It may seem daunting at first, but it's really not and I recommend giving it a chance.

    The first link, See the World, is a fun way to motivate yourself to give up porn. You get rewarded for every 10 days straight you go without porn to a trip to a new country.
     
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  13. Circleinthesquare

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    On my own last night and once the idea is in my head then BANG... feeling very weak at the moment. :(
     
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  14. WilBil99

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    You’re tougher than any urge @Circleinthesquare ! Say not today and hit the movies, go to gym, go grocery shopping, balance your check book.....
     
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  15. 2pres90

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    A relapse, first of 2020. Stuck inside because of winter weather and without a workable plan for the day. Restarting this afternoon.
     
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  16. GottaBFree

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    Speaking of doing great congrats on 20! That’s a travel day.

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    Counter on 9. Feeling great and trying to be watchful to get to 10. I’d like to travel tomorrow too.
     
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  17. alpha.buddy

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    once isn't a relapse man, its just a reset.
     
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  18. Man, discovery you shocked me! I read only "Actually, last night I binged" in my News Feed. Thank God it was only a series!
    Stay clean and have a great weekend!
     
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  19. discovery

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    Balance the check book hmm.... I think that might make me binge PMO worse than anything lol

    INDEED IT IS!! Wheels up for you tomorrow, Mr. Free!

    Hahahaha lol. Man, does NoFap have a news feed?? I need to learn how to navigate the site better.. I allow bingeing on certain things at certain times. I'm in a situation now where I have Netflix in my own personal space (which I usually don't) so I'm taking advantage of it. Thanks for your concern though icebreaker! It feels good to be cared about :emoji_grinning: Love your signature by the way! How is the AV going for you these days?
     
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