Glad to be joining the group! I am 42, married with 2 kiddos. Like many of you, I have been dealing with P for decades now. The more I spend time here, the more I start to understand and appreciate the gravity of what we're doing. We are unwiring many many years of PMO, and we can't get discouraged if we get knocked down. I have been consciously working on recovery for about 4-5 years now. There are some very wise souls on these forums who have dedicated many more years to recovery. I am learning that this is NOT a "jump on the forums and quit P" type of journey. There is a significant investment we all need to make. And it's totally difficult. I'm looking forward to being open and honest with you guys as we fight this beast together.
nice streak! In my experience - I lived through it twice - there’s a point when things start to feel unpleasant physiologically. My testicles felt full and uncomfortable, I started to lose sleep, I became more irritable. The relief came from nocturnal ejaculations, which became the norm about once or twice a month. My body needed to figure out a new “release valve” mechanism. But getting to that point was uncomfortable for sure.
welcome! Wife and kids are great motivators! If you overcome this, you gain something not just for yourself but for your family!
Glad you're here. For me a big part of recovery is learning self-acceptance, doing my best and not condemning myself every time I relapse, which is what I used to do. I'm not a NoFap superhero yet, but I've made a lot of progress. And we have people on this site who are setting great examples and showing us that a different lifestyle is possible.
I will add you to the waiting list. We may have an opening for you in the next week or two but you will have to activate your counter before you can join.
Had to reset yet again. Hope everyone is doing alright. To the newer members, I say welcome to the group.
Sorry to hear, mate! Losing a massive streak is so demotivating! Glad you are here. Let’s do this together - Dostoyevsky’s style (by which I mean voluntarily taking on a bunch of suffering )
I'm at 5 days. I think this group really helped. For the last month I felt like it was impossible to go this many days.
This evening is tough but I am writing here instead of doing research on skimpy bikinis. I just need to finish a few work-related things, do some breathing exercises, take a cold shower and I am safe!
I find some of the hopefully news out there now about the economy re-opening has helped me with my urges for P. For me at least my mood plays a big part in my cravings for P. Here's to a uplifted mood to keep the momentum going for my streak.
I logged into a chat site and then closed it. That felt good that I didn't give in to it. And as usual, it was full of all the same people. As much of a problem that I think I have, they have it much worse. Feeling great at day 7.
Hi guys.... I've made a couple attempts to stop using porn using support through this site in the past. Once about a year ago I got about 3 -4 months PMO and was feeling much better about things but started having sex with my wife and then after month or two relapsed to PM as well. I did try again just to avoid PM more recently but that did not last too long. Anyway, I decided today to restart full PMO hard mode. Things have again become pretty obsessive for me with PM. I have also started obsessively looking at hooker sites and sugar baby sites since last time I was abstaining. I have not actually contacted anyone on those sites but thought about it... thought about talking to my wife about making our relationship open or polyamorous.... but have not actually brought it up. Really its all about sex addiction.... my wife is actually great, although we have not been intimate in some time now and we have been sleeping in separate beds for a month or two because of her insomnia. Anyway, I really want to try again to get away from PM and hope you guys can help keep me accountable... hope you guys are all good. Thanks
So, this group seems really comfortable sharing our .02 with each other. It’s part of what I like, even if you don’t want to accept it all. Unless you have PIED I strongly think hardmode is a bad idea for married guys. Separate bedrooms... often the sign of impending marital doom, so I’d take a close look at the status of your marriage and tread carefully. Good luck friend. Sounds like an important time to get PM free.
I agree. Separate bedrooms is a bad sign - something is off here and it’s important to be true to yourself here. also, hard mode for married folks is rough unless it is a conscious, temporary, and joint decision.
Checking in ...getting to 30 days. Each day has been a blessing to count, and a battle looking for peace that was worth it to fight. No surrender, no looking back but fighting each day to become better in each aspect of life that has been given to me.
I almost gave in today. Came so close to going to a chatroom. Was thinking, just a quick one. But somehow I overcame it. So I'm on day 8 and glad I avoided giving into today and having to start over.
Week one done. Had a dream that almost ended up being a sexy dream and then had another dream where I had blue balls and was super tempted to M (in the dream). Thankfully, I was aware of my nofap commitment in my dream state.
